>> Dec 29, 2009
I’ve written previously a post about what you should do as parents if you make mistakes to your child. It said that as long as you does it in a proper way, no need to hesitate in asking for apologize to your child.
What about compromise then? Some parents still assume that compromise shows their weakness, giving in and it will begin their loosing control to their children. Some parents still prefer to stick to their original demand to handle their children, whereas, compromise means that parents appreciate and understand the thoughts, ideas and feelings of their children.
As I mentioned before,compromise actually is a process of giving and taking. It isn’t shown parents’ weakness at all, but more to an effort to achieve a win–win situation for everyone involved.
Is compromise similar with negotiation? No, it’s different with negotiation. Based on the definition, negotiation expresses the right to say no, to refuse the offer/deal or to walk away. Compromise involves giving and taking. It is assumed from the beginning that there will be an agreement. The only question is what form the agreement will take and who will give way on what.
Compromise involves looking at the separate and common interests of an issue and seeing if there is a way for both sides to get some or most of what they want.
Ok, to give you more clear comprehension, I give you an example of compromise situation here: you need to get the grocery shopping done that morning (nonnegotiable), but you don't mind whether you get it done early or late (area of compromise). Your child has two favorite morning TV programs they want to watch, one early and one late. They want to watch both but there isn't time between them to get the shopping done. The compromise is the fact that you are prepared to time your shopping so your child gets to pick one show to watch, the one they like best. Everyone gets something they want, and your child learns to determine what is really important to them and at the same time learns they can't always get everything they desire. Well, it’s clear enough, right?
I’ll divide this topic in two posts. In the next post of this topic, I’ll mention the difference between compromises with surrender, the proper way for parents to say a compromise and the limit of compromise that parents should know. See you…
Rewrite source: brainy-child.com and google
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