When Parents Should Get Involved in Kids’ Issues (2)

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5. A teacher gave your child a C, but your child thinks he deserved an A.
Should you interfere? Get involved only if your child will take part in the conversation with the teacher. If you believe your child’s points are valid, you can make an appointment with the teacher but that he’ll have to make the case.

How to handle it: Have your child ask the teacher why she gave him the grade she did. Hearing the feedback from the teacher will help him fine-tune future assignments. Helping your child line up his arguments beforehand is a great way to teach him how to constructively approach a disagreement.

When to reconsider: If your child is prone to misreading or incorrectly copying down instructions, make sure you have the whole story before you jump to conclusions.

6. Your child’s coach sounds pretty harsh in practice.
Should you interfere? If it’s upsetting your child, yes. But remember: Tough love can sometimes be beneficial on the field. Some kids need more TLC, and others benefit from a little extra push. Let the coach be the judge of what your kid needs. It’s good for a kid to hear a motivating voice other than her parent’s.

How to handle it: With humbleness. Use a talk as a chance to learn something about your child, or help the coach to understand your child’s personality better. Talk to the coach alone, and try not to be critical.

When to reconsider: If the coach’s aggressiveness bothers only you and your child is thriving in practice, stay put in the bleachers.

7. Your child learned a not-so-nice word from a classmate.
Should you interfere? No. Tracking down the executor’s

mother takes more effort than it’s worth.

How to handle it: Just because you aren’t trying to root out the foulmouthed preschooler doesn’t mean you let the behavior slide. I was actually glad when my children used those words―at

home, anyway. It gave you the chance to explain what they mean and how they make other people feel.

When to reconsider: If the bad word isn’t a onetime thing and playing with a certain child always results in rule breaking. If your darling is also watching R-rated movies or playing violent video games at a friend’s house, it’s time to talk with the parents. Give them the benefit of the doubt; they may be in the dark about little Dirty Harry. Ask that they keep tabs on the activities; or else plan to host the kids at your house.

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