>> Jul 19, 2010
Dear parents, it’s the second post. If you forget the first three; you can see here.
4. “We’ll see.”
Forcing your child to hug, kiss, or show affection to someone sends the message that he doesn’t have control. Kids need to be certain that they can say no to unwanted physical attention, starting at a young age, so that as they develop and grow they will know how to handle situations that they may be placed in.
If your child is hyperventilating or won’t sit still for emergency medical treatment, this phrase may not be so bad. But for ordinary emotions—even those expressed in ways that would rival a soap star’s performance—“calm down” may translate to: “Your feelings don’t matter.”
It is all right for your kids to know that you’re not perfect. Actually, they already know it. Experts agree that it’s better for parents to fess up to mistakes than to claim superiority. When you say, ‘I shouldn't have done that,’ your child will have a rock-solid sense that her feelings matter to the people who are most important in her life. Additionally, you don’t want to encourage your children to always be on a quest to be right, because as the phrase goes, no one is perfect.
Source: google & parenting.kaboose.com