>> Jul 13, 2010
What is wrong with the word no? There’s nothing’s wrong completely—unless it’s used for everything. Save the big guns for difficult situations, like when your todler is in mortal danger.
This is one of those things you may think, but is rather best left unsaid. It’s best to make the big parenting decisions together. Additionally, you don’t want to feel responsible for introducing a sense of fear in your child for one parent or the other. This could be a mistake that has the potential to create an awkward relationship as your child grows older.
Of course your child is the best thing, but too much unspecific praise can go to our kids’ heads. Worse, these comments can create pressure for perfection. Experts advise us to be specific and child-centered. Try the following, “You must be very proud of that drawing. I like how you drew a big smile on the sun.” Statements like these allow for greater self-esteem.