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Couple's Corner: Breakfast in Bed

>> Feb 25, 2010


Rodliz’s Nest
Breakfast in bed is one of my hubby’s favorites. We do this often! I don’t meet my hubby everyday now, but he can go back home from his work place every three days. Most of week ends, he must work.

So, during his days at home, every breakfast time is breakfast in bed. There’s nothing special about the meal. A cup of coffee is a must, and also a glass of warm water. He likes to have toasted bread for breakfast.

Of course, I always accompany him. While having breakfast, we usually watch news on television. I really enjoy the times when we can be together like this because we can’t do it everyday…

Simple things like breakfast in
bed can be romantic enough, right? You don’t have to go to an expensive dining place to have sweet moments together. Hehehe, sorry, this time, my story is very short. I invite you to join or to read other’s story by clicking the badge above.

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When do You Need to Start Saving Your Marriage?

>> Feb 24, 2010

When you say,” I do” on your wedding day, of course, you are dreaming of living in a happy marriage life; but sometimes life doesn’t go on as we want it to be. Marriage itself is a difficult commitment and marriage life has its ups and downs. But how if you begin to feel: there is something wrong, there is something hurts you or there is something that makes you uncomfortable, and you don’t know what exactly it is.

A broken marriage may start from a problem that lets unsolved for along time. You can’t ignore any problem. No matter what small a problem is, it can become the discomfort source in your relationship. Moreover, it can lead to the negative thinking such as a desire to divorce. Knowing from the beginning the danger signs in a marriage will help you a lot. You can anticipate what have hurt you or what have made you uncomfortable. To be able to save your marriage, you should realize in advance whenever you need a
marriage help.

If you start to feel uneasy for any reason about your marriage, or even if you want to make sure you’re on the right track,
marriage counseling might be for you. If you make this decision earlier rather than later, you can improve your communication and perhaps strengthen your marriage even more.

You shouldn’t wait until worse thing happens in your marriage like infidelity, emotional abuse, neglect or something bad else. If you feel consistently unhappy when you spend time with your spouse, it can be a sign that you need to save your marriage. If your marriage is in trouble, it will affect other areas of your life. You may feel depressed or unhappy in many areas of your life because you are too busy worrying about your marriage.


You and your spouse may also consider on participating in a marriage retreat. It can also be a perfect way for you to reconnect and focus on your marriage. Your life is so busy; so, it will be nice to have a special time together to just discuss your marriage and reconnect one another. Whatever way you choose to save your marriage, the most important point is, save your marriage earlier!

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To be a Good Husband Guidance (2)

>> Feb 21, 2010

Hi, nice to see you again. This Sunday I’ll share the continuing of how to be a good husband tips. Check it out…


4. Don’t bring your own issues into the marriageAll of us have emotional baggage. When you marry, you bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. When your wife comes to you for support, that isn’t the time to open up that emotional baggage. There are times when you can unload this stuff on your wife, but not when she needs your support.
It’s common for a man to internalize all her problems and make them our own. But if you do this, you are losing sight of why she confided in you in the first place. Don’t be selfish when you are supposed to be supportive.

5. Know when to make it about youOf course, it can’t always be about her or the marriage. There are times when your needs should be met. That’s the definition of a give-and-take partnership, which is what a marriage should be about.

Tell her how you feel, but don’t put her in a defensive position. This means you describe to her how something she does affects you without making your feelings accusatory. When you talk about issues in your marriage, tell her about how it affects you instead of what it is about her that bothers you. Good communication is one of the keys of a healthy marriage; good communication requires you to tell her how you are affected.

If your wife does something that hurts you, tell her exactly that you are hurt. Don’t focus on her actions, but on the consequences of those actions. If you simply accuse her of undermining you or being insensitive, it automatically puts her on the defensive. When she’s defensive about her actions, good communication becomes all but impossible.

6. Be affectionateWomen need affection sometimes. If you show your wife spontaneous affection occasionally, it reassures her of the love bond.

7. Be willing to get outside helpThere’s the common joke about men refusing to ask for directions. Men throughout history have needed to be self-sufficient. That’s one of the characteristics which make men successful. When we were out in the wilderness hunting for food, we couldn’t stop at the convenience store to ask where the herd was.

A smart man has to realize when he can’t do it all himself. One of those cases is the man whose marriage is in trouble. It’s very standard for a man to refuse to go to a marriage counselor.

A man would prefer to buy a map than ask for directions. In the same way, he would rather read how-to guides on how to save his marriage than ask for professional help. In a lot of cases, getting good advice is enough. Modifying our attitudes and the subsequent behaviors those attitudes cause can have profound effects on a failing marriage. But sometimes the problems run deeper. That’s when a man has to give into his wife’s request that they speak to a counselor.

Professional marriage counselors can be a great help. They are instructors in how to listen, how to show respect, how to avoid judgment, how to be a part of the team, how to express your feelings and how to be more affectionate. In short, when a man finds that his best efforts to improve his marriage skills fail, he needs a trained instructor to work on those skills.

Again, this guidance mentions ideal things. But anyway, husbands (and wives) can learn from this. It needs effort from both sides to maintain a marriage…

Source :howtoguides365.com
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CC: Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?

>> Feb 18, 2010


Rodliz’s Nest
This question seems like a silly question, but I think, most wives have ever asked the same question to their husbands. Why? Most women need to feel secure and need to be assured that their husbands won’t leave them and will always love them forever.

I myself have ever asked this question to my hubby, in the first year of our
marriage. He can answer my question perfectly. He said that he loves my heart and personalities, he can accept me completely; and it won’t change until death do us part. I feel safe and secure emotionally, and I think, we, wives need this secure feeling. Until now, I’ve never asked my hubby this question anymore.

As a wife, it isn’t wise to ask this question too often to your husband. It expresses your distrust and your lack of self esteem. Moreover, he will feel annoyed with your questions! I guess he will say something like this: Why you don’t trust my love to you? or Why you always ask me the same question? or What I have to do to make you believe in me? or I’m bored to answer your question…

If you have get your answer or you can see the answer in how he treats you, don’t questioning your husband’s love again. It’s better to convey and maintain your
love every day than always questioning it.

Well, it’s my story and a brief of my opinion. You can join us in CC or read other’s story by clicking the badge above. Enjoy your marriage life, every one…

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Best Service in Cheap Auto Insurance

We’ve already had our car for a few years, but we haven’t yet provided it with insurance. We know, it’s not a wise thing to do; but for us, buying insurance isn’t an easy job. Due to our tight budget, we have to choose a legit insurance company which offers cheap auto insurance.

Why you should have car auto insurance? Well, you need it to protect your own safety and security. If something happens, it will permit you to avoid financial responsibility. Auto insurance will help you to get over the financial problem that may occur!

Fortunately, a friend introduced us to a website : TopCheapInsurance.com. This site will help you to decide which proper insurance company will give you the best services and prices. You can find there a comparison insurance rate and instant insurance quotes. This comparison can be your guidance in reaching your final decision.

Nowadays, many people, like we, are looking for
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If you still don’t have car auto insurance until now, don’t hesitate to visit TopCheapInsurance.com to seek more details regarding insurance. Reading all articles there and then you will know what you should do next.

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To be a Good Husband Guidance

>> Feb 17, 2010

I’ve made posts on qualities in a good wife. You might think how about qualities in a good husband that a wife likes? Well, this post is the answer, it’s husband’s turn now. I found this article; and I want to share it here. Happy reading…


When you were single, you could focus on your needs entirely. Now that you’re in a partnership, it just isn’t going to work. Sometimes you have to think about the family and the marriage before you think about yourself.

A marriage is a complicated thing. Being a good
husband spans a lot of territory. Sure, you need to support your family financially and raise your children with love and concern. These are two of the givens of being a good husband. But these aren’t the only duties of being a good husband.
When you talk about the interpersonal dynamics of a man/wife relationship, a lot of these dynamics involve how you communicate with one another. We send both intentional and unintentional signals to our spouse through our interpersonal communications. So a large part of being a good husband in this context is showing you are a part of the team, supporting your teammate while communicating when your need support in your turn.

1. Be Her Sounding Board
When your wife tells you her problems, she isn’t necessarily looking for a problem solver. She wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what’s going on in her life.
A husband who hears about his wife’s problems instinctively wants to come to the rescue. But most of the time, this isn’t what your wife is looking for. You need to fill the role more of a psychologist than that of a troubleshooter. Listen to her problems; show concern for those problems; show that you have empathy; but don’t always reply with “here’s what you need to do.”

When your wife comes to you with her problems, she isn’t looking for you to be her lawyer. And she certainly doesn’t need you to be her football coach, giving her fiery motivational speeches about how to beat her problem. She wants a counselor, to listen to her problems and help her deal with their emotional impact.
2. Show Respect
A major part of showing respect is to avoid the trap of being hyper-critical. Don’t criticize the way your wife dresses, cooks meals, parks the car or walks the dog. You might think you are instructing your wife, but you are actually showing disrespect for the decisions you make.

Actions are just as important as words. Don’t make decisions that normally a married couple makes together. This shows you have no respect for her opinion.
Also, try to avoid certain intonations with your wife, the kind that can be described as “talking down” to her. A woman can pick up on these as well or better than a man can. These tell her you have contempt for whatever is she’s doing, that you are treating her like a child or even your pet. Showing a lack of respect is one of the surest ways to poison a marriage.

3. Avoid Judgment
Try not to sweat the little stuff
, because it has a way of becoming big rather quickly. If you judge every action or opinion your wife has, that’s going to come through in your words and actions.

Your wife is different from you. Of course she isn’t going to perceive things the way you do. She’s had different life experiences than you, not the least of which is the general experience of living life as a woman. She won’t always like what you like. She won’t behave like a man does.

It’s a good article, right? Hope
husbands can learn from this. I’ll divide it into two posts, so, see you…
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Camera Critters : a Green Dragonfly

>> Feb 13, 2010

Camera Critters
For this week, I want to share a picture from a friend. I seldom see dragonflies, so, I really like this. I forgot when is the last time I saw a dragon fly. Why dragonflies are rare nowadays?

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Tag : About Myself

Now it’s my turn to post the tag. Thanks to Sobat Nur Huda, Pak Johson Manurung and Kang Enes for giving me this tag.

1.Where is your cell phone?
If I go outside I often put my cell phone in my pants’ pocket. At home, I put it on a table.


2. Relationship?
I’m a married woman. I want to have good relationship with others.

3. Your hair?
Black, thick, short and wavy.

4. Work?
A home maker, a stay at home wife, a work at home woman.

5. Your sisters and brothers?
I have three elder brothers and zero sister. I’m the youngest.

6. Your favorit thing?
Singing, blogging, listening music.

7. Your dream last night?
I seldom can remember my dreams.

8. Your favorit drink?
Fresh water and green tea.

9. Your dream car?
A modern family car.

10. Your shoes?
Black and dark brown.

11. Your fears?
I don’t get Allah’s blessings.

12. What do you want to be in 10 years?
To be a happier person, hehehe.

13. Who did your hang out with last week?
My husband.

14. What are you not good at?
Driving a car. I’m a bad driver.

15. One of your wish list item?
Have my own baby.

16. Where you grew up?
Several towns. I was born in Bogor, and then I moved several times with my family to Palembang, Bandung and Surabaya.

17. Last thing you did?
Watched news on TV.

18. What are you wearing?
T-shirt and short pants. I’m at home.

19. Your computer?
Works fine now.

20. Your pet?
One she-cat and fish in an aquarium.

21. Your life?
Just doing my best…

22. Missing?
My late mother.

23. What are you thinking right now?
My husband. It’s week end now and he can’t be with me. He must work…

24. Your car?
My husband’s car : a black small jeep.

25. Your kitchen?
A small one at home.

26. Your favorit color?
Blue, brown, soft colors.

27. Last time you laugh?
A few hours ago; I saw a funny show on tv.

28. Last time you cried?
I forgot.

29. Love?
I have wonderful love life, to love and be loved.

30. So who wants to share their ONEs? how about?
I like to share with others, especially with people I know; but not about every thing in my life.

31. Person elected to the tag?
I allow every one to grab this tag, if they are interested…

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Are These Qualities in a Wife that a Husband Like?(2)

>> Feb 11, 2010

Below are the other qualities:


7) Be an equal partner in bed. For married couples, sexual intimacy can be an essential thing in a marriage; but it can be also less important. It’s a private matter for couples, I don’t want to add more here. Actually, the author wrote a different statement; but I don’t agree with her opinion, so, it’s my own
perspective.

8) Plan surprises. It can be anything like organizing his birthday party without him knowing about it. Your surprises don’t have to be elaborate and can be as simple as making him his favorite snack or his favorite dishes once in a while even if you would rather eat something else.

9) Express your love and appreciation often. Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the best of your time together. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’ too. Also join him in activities that he's interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else or give him a thoughtful gift once in a while.

10) Honesty, loyalty and dedication. A good wife would be honest, loyal and dedicated to her husband. Marriage is a life long commitment and the vows you have taken at the time of marriage should be kept in all conditions.

11) Take care of herself. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Take special care about your appearance everyday.

12) Be a good home maker. Apart from this, be wise with money and take all the responsibilities of a wife seriously without complaining.

Of course, these qualities are too idealistic, but you’re able to learn from it, though I think a perfect wife like this is very rare (or impossible?). As a wife, I don’t have all those qualities; but as long as you can apply open communication and you understand one another, you can have a happy
marriage life.
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Are These Qualities in a Wife that a Husband Like?

>> Feb 9, 2010

When I browsed a few days ago, I found this article that written by Anamika S; and I want to share here. She tried to compile qualities that a good wife should have.
Of course, every married man wishes to have a good wife (also vice versa). Many people advice the new bride to be a good wife to her husband. But what are the makings of a good or perfect wife? Many women don’t know. Many of the qualities of a good wife are already inbuilt in a person and the rest can be developed. Do you agree with this?


Well, here are the qualities that a husband looks in a wife :
  1. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. Don’t be one of those people who make everyone around you feel bad just because you’ve had a hard day. Welcome your husband with a smile when he comes home instead of a sour face. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Listen to his talk about his day especially if it was a difficult one.
  2. Treat your husband with respect. If you expect respect from others we need to treat others with respect, too. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving and avoid speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife never chooses to strike, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking as it is impossible to take back the words once they have been spoken.
  3. Communicate. Communication is a key to a good and solid marriage. Don’t hide things from your husband or keep secrets after marriage. Find time to sit and talk with your husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour. If you feel that you can’t share with your husband anything then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when your husband is talking. You may have many important things to tell him but allow him to talk first. Don't greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. After marriage the wife and husband are a team or partners. Don’t take any major decisions about the family without consulting with husband. Fights or problems may happen in between the two but don’t let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves.
  4. Be Supportive. A husband expects wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles. A good wife loves her hubby through his successes and failures and provides reassurance when he's feeling down. She is an equal partner in the marriage. Support your husband in all stages of his career and life. Don’t hurt his ego. It is often heard saying that ‘a wife can make a man or break a man’. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely complement him. If you do this you can expect your husband to behave with you in the same manner and also respect you more for your support and thoughtfulness. When you don’t agree with him respectfully let him know you don’t agree.
  5. Don’t nag. No man would like a nagging wife. If you want to get your own way, ask him nicely. Many wives think that the only way to get her husband to do things is by nagging. But the truth is that your nagging can create unwanted gap or can make things worse between the two of you. Your husband is a grown man with his own thoughts and desires. Just because you think he should be doing something particular doesn't mean he has to do it.
  6. Give him his space. As a wife you need to understand that your husband also has a life other than you. He has his family, friends and colleagues who are part of his life, too. He also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect his undivided attention. Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering wife can sometimes be too irritating.
I still have six more qualities to share. See you in my next post…
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Looking for the Light

>> Feb 6, 2010

Camera Critters

One night, a few days ago, I saw this butterfly in our dining room. Similar with other flying insect behavior (like flying ants), it was looking for the light. I’ve often seen butterflies came into our house, but I’ve seldom seen like this one. It used to be big brown butterflies. In Indonesia, we call it guest butterflies, because it can be a sign that guest will come to our house. Believe it or not, but that truly happens. After I captured this moment, I let it there. In the next morning, I didn’t see it anymore.



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CC: Why/How do I Love Thee?

>> Feb 4, 2010


Rodliz’s Nest


I remembered that my hubby has ever asked me,” Why do you love me?” Well, this CC will ask his questions more completely.

I love him because he can accept my bad habits and personalities.


I love him because he wants to help me finishing household works (except ironing) if I ask him to.

I love him because he likes to shop in a flea market and allow me to wait in the car if the flea market is too muddy.

I love the way he takes care of me when I’m sick.

I love
him because he always brings me a glass of warm water to our bedroom at night.

I love it when he makes me a cup of green tea without being asked to.

I love him because I always miss him everytime he leaves home more than one day. I don’t meet him everyday; he goes home every three days. He left home yesterday, so, I miss him now, especially because I’m not feeling well today…

I love him because he never treats me badly and never talks to me in bad and harsh words. I think the worst nightmare of
wives is being abused by their own husbands. I feel so grateful to have a kind husband like him.

I love him because he always try to make me laugh (at least smile) every time he knows that I’m in my bad mood.

I love it when he cooks a special food to me.

I love it when he acts like a spoiled little child and I should act like his mom.

I love him because I can feel his great love to me. I know he loves me very much so that I can feel it strongly.

I love his way to
express affection to me every day, in both words and behaviors.

Those are some reasons why I’m in love with my husband. Do you want to know other’s lists? Click the badge above! If you want to share your story, join us at Couple’s Corner…

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Watery Wednesday

>> Feb 3, 2010

This small river was shot from a bridge at Kalierang, Bumiayu, Central Java, Indonesia (it’s my husband’s home town). To be more dramatic, I change the picture into a black and white one.

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My Favorite Resource Site for Fashion Accessory

I like to browse when I require information about something. That day, I need information on several specific fashion items. If I have to search for it one by one, it is not only taking more times but also troubling. Fortunately, I found this fashion directory; it’s truly a great help!

As visitors, I can browse for many specific fashion items; and I can get all the information about fashion from just one place. You can find various aspects of general fashion, fashion accessory, make up and beauty needs there. They have many specific categories: babies and kids, bath and aromatherapy, clothing general, general fashion, handbags and purses, hats and caps, jackets, jewellery Bespoke and handmade, jewellery general, jewellery making supplies, lingerie, makeup and beauty, pashminas and scarves, plus size clothing, shirts, shoes, skirts and dresses, sportswear, T-shirt, trousers, underwear and wedding. Isn’t it great? This fashion directory has become my favorite resource site for fashion stuffs.

They don’t only offer guidance in fulfilling your fashion needs; but also offer a fashion community for you. Join their forum and you’ll have new friends who have similar interests. If you run a business in fashion fields, don’t hesitate to advertise your fashion website in this fashion directory. By advertising in this fashion directory, you can attract more customers; and it means more gain to your business. Well, why don’t you try it for your self?
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How to Say ‘No’ to Your Child

>> Feb 2, 2010

There are many parents who can’t refuse children’s requests. Every time their children want something, these parents always try to fulfill it. An expert said that abundant affection is the cause of these parents’ behavior. It’s actually a normal thing, but you shouldn’t always follow their desires.

The research result of Centre for a New American Dream showed the confession of more than 50% children: owning certain goods make they are accepted in association. This assumption not only happens at rich
family, but also at indigent family.

If you, as parents, always accomplish your child’s wants, it will affect negatively for her/his
character. Your child will grow to be a spoiled, disappointed easily, dependent and not-ready-to-accept-reality child. That’s why you should learn to say ‘No’ to your child in a wise and proper way. Don’t say ‘No’ with forcing or yelling; it will make your child more upset or even causing trauma to your child.

Here are tips for you:

  • State your refusal with clear and honest argument. Express it in simple language, so that your child will understand it well. Be honest is important! Children can’t be lied. Be careful in saying words, if you lie often to your children; you can loose their trust.

  • The ‘No’ words should be enjoyable for both parents and child. The child doesn’t feel to be forced and the parents don’t feel to do mistake.

  • You should make your child used to accept arguments since young age. It can push your child’s thinking ability. Your child will be encouraged to think critically, be more creative and recognize the causal rules earlier.

  • Ask your child to see the fact that goods which he/she wants can’t be fulfilled at the time.

  • If refusing the request, you should give other solution.

  • Bring your child together to look for wanted goods. Indirectly, you encourage your child to be able to accept the fact which is possible disappointing.
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