>> Nov 21, 2013
If you ignore your kid in a way or if you make lots of discipline mistakes, then this article is definitely going to help you fix this! Fixing those mistakes is key factor and it will make a huge difference in the parenting experience. The following advice has been taken by specialists and people who have been dealing with parent mistakes and their fixing during their whole life, so you can be sure all of them are relevant and helpful.
Being too negative
Expect too much
Mistake number two – we expect too much from our children. In order to teach your kid something, it might not be a bad idea to start acting like a teacher. The young children haven’t developed impulse control and this is why in many cases the parents assume their children know more than they do. Actually, when your child breaks a norm you need to remind yourself that he or she is not trying to be a pain – the kid just doesn’t know how to behave due to its early stage. Give examples with other children who behave more appropriately depending on the situation, also try explaining things in a simple way. For example, if you are sitting in a church and the kid shouts try saying something like “You don’t have to shout here, if you want something from me, just come and ask me quietly”.
As soon as we hear our children chasing each other around the house we might get really annoyed and start shouting – this is a mistake that should not be done and it is really bad for the children. You need to learn to ignore such things selectively. When your kids do something that you don’t like, it doesn’t mean you have to be the bad guy and shout. Try understanding them and try to be more attention-giving. It is always better to explain in plain voice, rather than just shouting.
“Talking without action”
The next mistake is the so called “talking without action”. We often say “Turn off the TV, seriously!” but if the child does not, all we do is nothing. This encourages the bad behavior of the kid. This is why you need to set the limits and follow them through. Second chances, nagging, negotiations – all those things are optional, but if you want to learn your kid to behave well, just set the limits.
Forget that every child is different
We assume that things which work for one kid will work for another. This is the type of mistake that is probably most common. The best way to fix this mistake is to develop a diverse toolbox. It is always easy to blame your kid if your discipline technique fails, but what you really need to do is to learn how to treat your kids in a different way depending on the situation.
Author Bio: Jessica Conars is a loving mother and according to her she did some mistakes with her children. But she is trying to fix them spending as much time with her family as she can when she is not at work at http://www.perfectcleaning.org.uk/house-cleaning-new-cross-se14/.