Be Careful on Labeling Your Child

Dear parents, you may have a child that is always disobedient and do many irritating things, included involve in fights at school or your neighborhood. Your child’s behavior often makes you dizzy and it happens almost everyday; therefore, you assume him/her as a naughty or a bad child. Please, be careful on doing this; especially giving your child negative labeling such as a lazy kid, a naughty kid, a disobedient kid, a stupid kid, etc.

Labeling is a stamp that can have positive or negative characteristic. Whether positive or negative labeling, both can affect children behavior, because children have sensitive feeling, especially children in primary school age. In daily life, there are still many parents that give negative label, such as ‘naughty kid’ to their children.

Why there are children with ‘irritating’ behavior? An expert said it can be caused by only high children curiosity or as an effort to gain more attention, whether from parents at home or teachers at school. Do you have any other ideas?

A child that basically is obedient can become being hard to be controlled, if the child is already labeled as a naughty kid by parents and people in neighborhood. This attitude appears because she/he feels not appreciated or trusted…

Negative label can also make your child feels worthless, that’s why parents should be more careful! Moreover, the child accept negative label in perforce and the neighborhood treat the child as a naughty one. This situation can make the child feels the same way as assumed by other people, tough the truth is she/he isn’t like that. What a poor child!

The worst thing is, if the negative label has already attached; conscious or unconsciously, the child will act as a naughty one in his/her daily life. The negative label can strongly attach to a child if she/he receives it from parents, teachers and people in the neighborhood.

If your child has irritating behavior, don’t judge him/her by negative labeling, as parents, you should introspect yourself first to know the possible causes and then accompany your child and pay more attention to find the proper solution. You should build the emotionally closeness with your child, it can help you to know what your child exactly wants and needs. Learn to be a good and wise listener to your child…

If you’ve already given your child a negative label, do hurry fix it! Don’t be ashamed to admit your mistake and ask for apologize to your child. After this ‘reconciliation’, you and your child can take proper following steps to build your closeness again.Rewrite source:Tempo and google

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Know More Your Spouse!

We all know that women and men are psychic different, but there’s no need to exaggerate it. Have you heard the term ‘the battle of the sexes’? I think it’s not proper to judge the differences of women and men like that. These differences shouldn’t become the source of arguing, because women and men minds can complement one another, right?

If women and men can comprehend each basic needs and thinking ways, there would be more possibility that couples can build real harmonies between them. The study concerning the psychic differences between men and women has been conducted for years by Jane Sherrod Singer, M.A. Psychology & Education.

In this post, I’ll mention several results of her study in form of ‘true or false’ statements (I think it’s more fun!). Let’s answer it and find out how far you know your spouse…

1. Men believe in superstition more than women. True or False?
Answer: False. Women believe in superstition more!

2. There are more men who commit suicide. True or False?
Answer: True. There’s an observation in US and Europe stated that men can be more easily to commit suicide.

3. Men have more desire to improve and develop their personalities. True or False?
Answer: False. Women have more desire in it; they like to attend seminars, visit art galleries, read books, etc.

4. Men are more selfish. True or False?
Answer: False. Men want to give more and they are less selfish than their wives. (What? before, I think that men are more selfish than women!)

5. Men are more religious. True or False?
Answer: False. Women are more religious.

6. Men tend to think about themselves more often. True or False?
Answer: False. In case of business matter, female employees think about their own personal problems more often.

7. Men need joy and adventure more. True or False?
Answer: True. Men need joy more because one of men’s nature characters is they tend to be more nervous than women.

8. Men like to exaggerate things more. True or False?
Answer: False. Men less like to exaggerate things, they like to boast more!

9. Men set up the higher standard for themselves. True or False?
Answer: True. Men are more idealist and they tend to determine higher standard.

10. Men like harsh joke more. True or False?
Answer: True. Based on research at high school and university, male students like to do harsh jokes to the juniors.

11. Men are more honest. True or False?
Answer: False. See no. 8 answer: men like to boast.

12. Men get bored more easily. True or False?
Answer: True. Women can sit to knit for hours; men prefer more energetic activities.

13. Men can be happier. True or False?
Answer: False. Women can be happier and also sadder.

14. Men’s emotion is more stable. True or False?
Answer: True. Women are more easily to feel sad, worried and anxious. The fear in women can be more intense than men.

Give one value for every right answer, and then count it up…
12-14: remarkable value. You have ability to adapt yourself so well to your spouse.
5-11: average value. Sometimes your spouse still makes you feel confused.
0-4: this value shows that you aren’t intuitive person or in other words, you less want to observe or to pay attention to your spouse. If you intend to maintain your marriage, you must fix it right away!Rewrite source:Intisari and google

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Unsecured Business Loans: Apply It to Fulfill Your Business Needs!

Are you running a small business right now? As a small business owner, you know definitely that your business needs continuance of financial support. If you have problems in your business cash flow, what can you do to solve it? Let’s assume that there is no problem with the cash flow, but you are planning to expand your business, what can you do to get the required additional finance? Well, of course, you should apply a business loan, or, precisely, an unsecured business loan.

Unsecured business loans can turn out to be the finest financial source for your small business. If you can’t afford to place any asset, there’s no need to worry, because unsecured business loan is a loan without demand of collateral to pledge. What a relief…

So, if you have run your business more than two years and you have at least a 680 credit score with no recent derogatory marks on your credit; you are welcomed to start unsecured small business loan online application process. Or you can call (888) 890-1679 to find out more helpful information. Wish you a success on your business!

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Husband and Wife’s Funny Moments

To cheer up your day, I’ll share funny things here. It can make me smile, I hope you, too…

Joe, the husband, is so forgetful. He figured out a way to remember his wife’s birthday and their wedding anniversary. He opened an account with a florist and told him to send flowers to his wife on those dates, along with a note signed “Your loving husband”. His wife, Suzy, was thrilled by the attention, and all was great until one anniversary. So, that day, Joe came home, saw the bouquet, kissed Suzy, and said, “Nice flowers, honey. Where did you get them?” Isaac Witty, Reader’s Digest
I don’t like exercising. Yesterday my wife said,”Let’s walk around the block”.
I said,” Why? We’re already here”. Wendell Potter, Reader’s Digest
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What Does A Happy Family Mean to You?

Would you like to share your mind more about the meaning of a happy family to yourself? Please share it in comment section…

Keluarga bahagia sesuai tuntuan Islam tentu terkait dengan kondisi suatu keluarga yang di dalamnya terkandung unsur sakinah mawaddah wa rahmah. Sebuah buku berjudul Perempuan karya Ustad Quraish Shihab menjelaskan dengan indah dan terperinci makna ini. Saya kutip sekilas saja ya, untuk mengingatkan kembali kita semua...

Sakinah mengandung makna ketenangan, lahir dan batin. Sakinah terlihat pada ketenangan lahir yang tercermin pada kecerahan raut muka yang disertai kelapangan dada serta budi bahasa halus yang dilahirkan oleh ketenangan batin. Ketenangan batin bisa terwujud dengan menyatunya pemahaman dan kesucian hati, serta bergabungnya kejelasan pandangan dengan tekad yang kuat.

Mawaddah mengandung arti kelapangan dada dan kekosongan jiwa dari kehendak buruk. Ustad Quraish Shihab mengalami kesulitan dalam menemukan padanan kata mawaddah dalam bahasa Indonesia karena kata ‘cinta’ belum dapat menggambarkannya secara utuh. Makna mawaddah bisa dijelaskan melalui dampak mawaddah yang telah bersemai dalam jiwa seseorang. Hati yang telah dipenuhi mawaddah terlihat ketika yang bersangkutan tidak rela pasangannya disentuh oleh sesuatu yang bisa ‘mengeruhkan’ pasangannya. Dia bersedia menampung keburukan, mengorbankan diri dan menjaga orang-orang terkasihnya dari hal-hal buruk.

Rahmah berarti rasa sayang. Keluarga rahmah adalah keluarga yang didasarkan pada rasa cinta kasih dan sayang di antara komponen-komponen keluarga di dalamnya.

Sources : Perempuan karya M. Quraish Shihab and google , Happy Family Group-Facebook
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