Couple’s Corner: Did I Marry My Dream Man?

It’s interesting topic. I guess every woman has their dream man but in fact, there is no woman that married with her dream man. Dream man is just a fantasy; and it’s a normal thing as long as you still stand on reality.

Like other woman, my dream man’s look like is changing several times. I’m too shy to mention here, hehehe. When I first met Mas Rofi, I didn’t have any feeling as he isn’t my ‘type’ at all. But, his love, care, attention, can melt my heart –at last. Who needs a dream man if you have met someone that makes you feel so special?

Knowing each other’s characters is a must. Then you can answer this question:”Is this the right man for me?” Don’t forget to ask to God, too. I did this every time there’s a man ‘nearing’ me.

Well, my marriage is almost eight years now; and I’m still convinced that he is the right man for me. What about you? Have you met your dream man/woman?

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Bogor Presidential Palace

A large pond separates the back part of Bogor Presidental Palace with Bogor Botanical Gardens. This time I share again one photo of the back part of Bogor Presidential Palace (Bogor, West Java, Indonesia), in different angle.

Visit Watery Wednesday for more watery photos around the world.

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Family Conflict Solving Guidance

Every one has their own views, thoughts and expectations. It also happens with every member in your family. In fact, a family consists of different views, thoughts and expectations of each family member. So, during your daily family life, it is normal if disagreement sometimes happens.

Family conflict can potentially occur when there is collision between different views and thoughts of family members. The conflict truly happens when the misunderstandings between family members directs them to the wrong conclusion. If the conflict matters are never discussed, let unsolved or not resolved wisely and peacefully, it can lead to deeper arguments and anger.

If this condition takes place in your family, you should consider taking immediate action. Family conflict can cause unhappiness and stress, since it will affect to poor relationship between family members. It is not the right environment for young family members to grow up, since they should develop and grow in healthy and comfortable family surroundings.

It is not an easy job to solve any family conflict. It needs hard work, determination and consideration. Peaceful reconciliation can only be held if every family member that involved in a conflict is willing to have open communication, negotiation, compromise and respect each other.

Then you can take a further step with discussing and suggesting a solution together. When the solution has been decided and chosen, every family member must understand it completely and attach to it.

If you have doubt to solve your family conflict by yourself or you face really difficult conflict issues; it is wiser if you get a professional help and advice of a family counselor. You can ask for help of family counselors at Denver Family Counseling if you are a resident of Denver. The family counselor will be able to see the conflict in bigger picture with neutrality and gives a fresh and different perspective. You should apply the counselor’s advice to look for a resolution with your family and avoid any potential conflict in the future.

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White Geese

These geese belong to my cousin. He let them move freely in the back yard of his home. He said that they are tame enough, but I was afraid to hold them as I’ve ever been bitten by a goose before.

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Couple’s Corner: First impression with our in-laws

This time I want to write a little about my SIL and BIL, especially about our first impression. My hubby introduced me to his family after we already had a serious relationship and we have talked about our wedding plan. That day, his brothers and sisters have gathered in one house to meet me for the first time. I remembered that I didn’t have any worried feeling; I just thought that it’s a process that I must go through. Knowing all close family members of our future husbands is a must, right?

We had lunch together and then I had a warm conversation with them. They were so kind, I felt so welcomed. Actually, I have no trouble at all to enter my husband’s family. Until now, I more often visit my SIL and BIL, than my older brothers. They live not far from our house; it takes only 45 minutes drive to arrive at their homes. Since they are living near each other, it’s easier for us to meet them all at the same day.

My hubby’s father lives at his own house in another town, so, the first introduction to my FIL was done after I met his brothers and sisters. My FIL also accepted me well from the first time. I am so grateful to have FIL, SIL, and BIL like them!

It’s my story. Perhaps it isn’t that interesting, hahaha. In fact, it’s my hubby that had ‘interesting’ story; he’s got hard times with my father, as he’s still hard to let me go. To thank and appreciate my father’s blessing, we decided to accompany him until now.

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