Tag : About Myself

Now it’s my turn to post the tag. Thanks to Sobat Nur Huda, Pak Johson Manurung and Kang Enes for giving me this tag.

1.Where is your cell phone?
If I go outside I often put my cell phone in my pants’ pocket. At home, I put it on a table.

2. Relationship?
I’m a married woman. I want to have good relationship with others.

3. Your hair?

Black, thick, short and wavy.

4. Work?
A home maker, a stay at home wife, a work at home woman.

5. Your sisters and brothers?
I have three elder brothers and zero sister. I’m the youngest.

6. Your favorit thing?
Singing, blogging, listening music.

7. Your dream last night?
I seldom can remember my dreams.

8. Your favorit drink?
Fresh water and green tea.

9. Your dream car?
A modern family car.

10. Your shoes?
Black and dark brown.

11. Your fears?
I don’t get Allah’s blessings.

12. What do you want to be in 10 years?
To be a happier person, hehehe.

13. Who did your hang out with last week?

My husband.

14. What are you not good at?
Driving a car. I’m a bad driver.

15. One of your wish list item?
Have my own baby.

16. Where you grew up?
Several towns. I was born in Bogor, and then I moved several times with my family to Palembang, Bandung and Surabaya.

17. Last thing you did?
Watched news on TV.

18. What are you wearing?
T-shirt and short pants. I’m at home.

19. Your computer?
Works fine now.

20. Your pet?
One she-cat and fish in an aquarium.

21. Your life?
Just doing my best…

22. Missing?
My late mother.

23. What are you thinking right now?
My husband. It’s week end now and he can’t be with me. He must work…

24. Your car?
My husband’s car : a black small jeep.

25. Your kitchen?
A small one at home.

26. Your favorit color?
Blue, brown, soft colors.

27. Last time you laugh?
A few hours ago; I saw a funny show on tv.

28. Last time you cried?
I forgot.

29. Love?
I have wonderful love life, to love and be loved.

30. So who wants to share their ONEs? how about?
I like to share with others, especially with people I know; but not about every thing in my life.

31. Person elected to the tag?
I allow every one to grab this tag, if they are interested…

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Are These Qualities in a Wife that a Husband Like?(2)

Below are the other qualities:

7) Be an equal partner in bed. For married couples, sexual intimacy can be an essential thing in a marriage; but it can be also less important. It’s a private matter for couples, I don’t want to add more here. Actually, the author wrote a different statement; but I don’t agree with her opinion, so, it’s my own perspective.

8) Plan surprises. It can be anything like organizing his birthday party without him knowing about it. Your surprises don’t have to be elaborate and can be as simple as making him his favorite snack or his favorite dishes once in a while even if you would rather eat something else.

9) Express your love and appreciation often. Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the best of your time together. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’ too. Also join him in activities that he's interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else or give him a thoughtful gift once in a while.

10) Honesty, loyalty and dedication. A good wife would be honest, loyal and dedicated to her husband. Marriage is a life long commitment and the vows you have taken at the time of marriage should be kept in all conditions.

11) Take care of herself. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Take special care about your appearance everyday.

12) Be a good home maker. Apart from this, be wise with money and take all the responsibilities of a wife seriously without complaining.

Of course, these qualities are too idealistic, but you’re able to learn from it, though I think a perfect wife like this is very rare (or impossible?). As a wife, I don’t have all those qualities; but as long as you can apply open communication and you understand one another, you can have a happy marriage life.

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Are These Qualities in a Wife that a Husband Like?

When I browsed a few days ago, I found this article that written by Anamika S; and I want to share here. She tried to compile qualities that a good wife should have.

Of course, every married man wishes to have a good wife (also vice versa). Many people advice the new bride to be a good wife to her husband. But what are the makings of a good or perfect wife? Many women don’t know. Many of the qualities of a good wife are already inbuilt in a person and the rest can be developed. Do you agree with this?

Well, here are the qualities that a husband looks in a wife :

1. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. Don’t be one of those people who make everyone around you feel bad just because you’ve had a hard day. Welcome your husband with a smile when he comes home instead of a sour face. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Listen to his talk about his day especially if it was a difficult one.
2. Treat your husband with respect. If you expect respect from others we need to treat others with respect, too. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving and avoid speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife never chooses to strike, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking as it is impossible to take back the words once they have been spoken.
3. Communicate. Communication is a key to a good and solid marriage. Don’t hide things from your husband or keep secrets after marriage. Find time to sit and talk with your husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour. If you feel that you can’t share with your husband anything then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when your husband is talking. You may have many important things to tell him but allow him to talk first. Don't greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. After marriage the wife and husband are a team or partners. Don’t take any major decisions about the family without consulting with husband. Fights or problems may happen in between the two but don’t let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves.
4. Be Supportive. A husband expects wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles. A good wife loves her hubby through his successes and failures and provides reassurance when he's feeling down. She is an equal partner in the marriage. Support your husband in all stages of his career and life. Don’t hurt his ego. It is often heard saying that ‘a wife can make a man or break a man’. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely complement him. If you do this you can expect your husband to behave with you in the same manner and also respect you more for your support and thoughtfulness. When you don’t agree with him respectfully let him know you don’t agree.
5. Don’t nag. No man would like a nagging wife. If you want to get your own way, ask him nicely. Many wives think that the only way to get her husband to do things is by nagging. But the truth is that your nagging can create unwanted gap or can make things worse between the two of you. Your husband is a grown man with his own thoughts and desires. Just because you think he should be doing something particular doesn't mean he has to do it.
6. Give him his space. As a wife you need to understand that your husband also has a life other than you. He has his family, friends and colleagues who are part of his life, too. He also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect his undivided attention. Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering wife can sometimes be too irritating.

I still have six more qualities to share. See you in my next post…

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Looking for the Light

One night, a few days ago, I saw this butterfly in our dining room. Similar with other flying insect behavior (like flying ants), it was looking for the light. I’ve often seen butterflies came into our house, but I’ve seldom seen like this one. It used to be big brown butterflies. In Indonesia, we call it guest butterflies, because it can be a sign that guest will come to our house. Believe it or not, but that truly happens. After I captured this moment, I let it there. In the next morning, I didn’t see it anymore.

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CC: Why/How do I Love Thee?

I remembered that my hubby has ever asked me,” Why do you love me?” Well, this CC will ask his questions more completely.

I love him because he can accept my bad habits and personalities.

I love him because he wants to help me finishing household works (except ironing) if I ask him to.

I love him because he likes to shop in a flea market and allow me to wait in the car if the flea market is too muddy.

I love the way he takes care of me when I’m sick.

I love

him because he always brings me a glass of warm water to our bedroom at night.

I love it when he makes me a cup of green tea without being asked to.

I love him because I always miss him everytime he leaves home more than one day. I don’t meet him everyday; he goes home every three days. He left home yesterday, so, I miss him now, especially because I’m not feeling well today…

I love him because he never treats me badly and never talks to me in bad and harsh words. I think the worst nightmare of

wives is being abused by their own husbands. I feel so grateful to have a kind husband like him.

I love him because he always try to make me laugh (at least smile) every time he knows that I’m in my bad mood.

I love it when he cooks a special food to me.

I love it when he acts like a spoiled little child and I should act like his mom.

I love him because I can feel his great love to me. I know he loves me very much so that I can feel it strongly.

I love his way to

express affection to me every day, in both words and behaviors.

Those are some reasons why I’m in love with my husband. Do you want to know other’s lists? Click the badge above! If you want to share your story, join us at Couple’s Corner…

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Watery Wednesday

This small river was shot from a bridge at Kalierang, Bumiayu, Central Java, Indonesia (it’s my husband’s home town). To be more dramatic, I change the picture into a black and white one.

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My Favorite Resource Site for Fashion Accessory

I like to browse when I require information about something. That day, I need information on several specific fashion items. If I have to search for it one by one, it is not only taking more times but also troubling. Fortunately, I found this fashion directory; it’s truly a great help!

As visitors, I can browse for many specific fashion items; and I can get all the information about fashion from just one place. You can find various aspects of general fashion, fashion accessory, make up and beauty needs there. They have many specific categories: babies and kids, bath and aromatherapy, clothing general, general fashion, handbags and purses, hats and caps, jackets, jewellery Bespoke and handmade, jewellery general, jewellery making supplies, lingerie, makeup and beauty, pashminas and scarves, plus size clothing, shirts, shoes, skirts and dresses, sportswear, T-shirt, trousers, underwear and wedding. Isn’t it great? This fashion directory has become my favorite resource site for fashion stuffs.

They don’t only offer guidance in fulfilling your fashion needs; but also offer a fashion community for you. Join their forum and you’ll have new friends who have similar interests. If you run a business in fashion fields, don’t hesitate to advertise your fashion website in this fashion directory. By advertising in this fashion directory, you can attract more customers; and it means more gain to your business. Well, why don’t you try it for your self?

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