Want to Save Your Marriage? Stop These Behaviors!

If you really relate with one or more warning signs that indicates that you are in marriage trouble; the first step to save your marriage is accepting and realizing that there are problems that need to be resolved.

The next step, you should stop all harmful behaviors in your marriage. Here are some of the lists of destructive behaviors:

• Emotionally and/or Physically Abusing Your Spouse

• Breaking Your Promises and Being an Undependable Spouse

• Being Blindly Jealous
• Not Wanting to Forgive
• Putting Romance on the Last Priority
• Continuing to Have Unrealistic Expectations
• Refusing to Listen to or Communicate With Your Spouse
• Being Unkind or Uncaring Towards Your Spouse
• No commitment or responsibility (thanks to Gunsirit)
• Being unaffectionate to your spouse (thanks to Jona)
• No respect and trust with each other (thanks to Eden)
• Lack of communication (thanks to Dhemz)

Do you want to add another one into the list?

Source: marriageabout.com, wewomentoday.com

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House Sparrow

I don’t see various wild birds around my neighborhood. Most of them are House Sparrow birds. Indonesian people call this bird ‘burung Gereja’ (Church bird). I don’t know why we call it that way. Sorry for not sharing the clear photo…

House Sparrow (Passer domesticus) is a species of passerine bird of the sparrow family Passeridae. It occurs naturally in most of Europe, the Mediterranean region, and much of Asia. It has also been accidentally introduced to many parts of the world, making it the most widely distributed wild bird. It is a small bird, with feathers mostly different shades of brown and grey.

The House Sparrow is a very social bird. It also settles communally, its nests are usually grouped together in clumps, and it engages in a number of social activities, such as dust and water bathing, and "social singing", in which birds call together in bushes. I love to hear their “social singing”… Do you?

Data  source:wikipedia

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Water Channel

The channel is located in Katulampa, Bogor (West Java, Indonesia). We only needs about 30 minutes ride to reach this spot. The little dam (located on the side of Katulampa Dam) allows a part of flowing Ciliwung River into the irrigation channel. Local people use the water for their daily purposes.

My entry for Watery Wednesday

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Watch Out for Marriage Troubles!

Of course, you don’t want to have a broken marriage. To maintain a marriage, you should know any warning sign. Don’t be one of people that don’t notice at all troubles in marriage form the beginning.

Knowing these signs earlier make you are able to fix the problem and save your marriage. Here are some warning signs:

1. You and your spouse are fighting over the same thing repetitively with no end in sight.

2. There is no intimacy. When is the last time you hug and kiss your spouse? If it hasn’t been done for along time, it’s a sign that marriage trouble is alive in your home.

3. Between you and your spouse, there are no longer things that you’re interested to do it together. You prefer to do things separately, most of the times. When you do something together, there is no communication, only silence.

4. It seems that you can’t do the right thing. Your every move is often or always criticized with negative comments. Your spouse shows no respect.

5. You’re the last person to know. Your spouse tells friends, family and everyone but you! You must find out from someone else. It’s really a warning sign!

6. Staying distracted. You feel better if you’re avoiding your spouse. You’re always doing something different than interacting with one another.

So, do you relate to one or some of these warning signs? Since it indicates that you are in marriage trouble; you should do appropriate things to save your marriage. If you still love your spouse, fix your marriage problems immediately!

Source: google, reviewingrelationshipadvice.com

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Lion

These wonderful creatures were captured at Taman Safari (Safari Park) Cisarua Bogor Indonesia. During my several visits to the park, I seldom saw wandering lions there, most of them were sitting and sleeping, like this couple.

Seeing a lion is remembering me to Aslan character in Narnia the movies. The lion (Panthera leo) is one of the four big cats in the genus Panthera, and a member of the family Felidae. With some males exceeding 250 kg weight, lion is the second-largest living cat after the tiger.

Lions spend much of their time resting and are inactive for about 20 hours per day. Although lions can be active at any time, their activity generally peaks after dusk with a period of socializing, grooming, and defecating. Irregular activity follow through the night hours until dawn, when hunting most often takes place. They spend an average of two hours a day walking and 50 minutes eating.

The mane of the adult male lion is very famous and unique among cats. It makes the lion appear larger and provides an excellent intimidation display. The darker and fuller the mane, the healthier the lion.

Data source:wikipedia

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How to Stop Your Child’s Thumb Sucking

In previous post, it mentioned that parents should interfere to stop this habit only if your child permanent front teeth have started to come in. If you still let your child doing it, your child may get teeth problem.

If you still don’t what are the right things to do, I hope this article will help you. Here are the tips:

Make Your Child Think it's Her/His Idea
Don’t nag your child to stop the thumb sucking habit. The better way: support her/him to realize how much she/he has grown and changed. Show your child what she/he has left behind on her/his way to maturity.

Mention that she/he no longer has use for diapers, bottles, or high chairs. Tell your child how proud you are of the accomplishment. Ask your child what else she/he thinks she/he will stop. If your child doesn't say thumb sucking, then you should suggest it.

Reduce the Habit
When you see your child's thumb in his mouth, try to draw your child’s attention. Engage him/her in an activity that needs he/she use both hands. Do this especially before nap and bedtime. You can try this: have your child to hold the book that you are reading or hug a stuffed animal with each arm. Have another trick?

Help Your Child to be Consistent
When your child wants to quit thumb sucking, tell her/him about a habit that you also gave up and how hard it was. Then you can decide to make a secret sign- between the two of you.

Every time you see your child reflexively slips her/his thumb in her/his mouth—you can use the secret signal to aid her realize what she is doing. This secret signal can change a shameful situation in fun way.

Use Authority
Statements from your child's pediatrician and dentist can really work. They can help your child feel that he/she wants to stop sucking his thumb because he/she is growing up (this tip works for me!).

Consider Peer Pressure
In your child’s age, friends are very important. Invite your child’s friends who don’t suck thumbs to have a nap together with your child at your home. If your child sucks the thumb and her/his friends mention it, this might encourage her/ his to stop.

Well, now it’s your turn to decide which one that you will apply. Don’t forget to consider your child’s personality and age. Good luck!

Source:babyzone.com

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Water Droplets

I always love seeing water droplets on any plant. For me, it looks like beautiful crystal stones. This time, I want to share water droplets on Adiantum leaves in our front yard. It’s captured after the rain stopped that day.

My entry for Watery Wednesday

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