A Happy Family

>> Jul 25, 2009

Why humor is important in your relationship and marriage life?

Many relationships without sense of humor wouldn’t last long
Humor is an essential ingredient of a meaningful relationship
Life is too hard to face with someone who takes life too seriously
Laughter is a great stress-reliever
Humor can break the arguing
Sharing humor can lead to build a deep bond relationship
Sense of humor can help you through the hard times in more optimistic way
Your spouse’s humorous words can help you out from your bad mood
Humor will constantly lighten and brighten your days
Humor is a diversion therapy from the difficulties of your daily life
Sense of humor can train you to see the positive side of your life
The more you share humor with your spouse, the healthier your relationship will be
Laughter is a natural medicine; every time you laugh, your body will release endorphins that create good mood and positive emotion. Even laughing at yourself can make you feel better!

Why

humor is important for your children?

Children’ sense of humor can increase their intelligence.An expert said that children’ sense of humor has straight relations with intelligence, creativity, social ability, empathy, self confidence, self appraisal and the higher problem solving ability. A child with a good sense of humor will be more likeable by his or her peers and adults.
Laughing together can increase the bond between parents and child
Children’ sense of humor can increase the children development function. With humor, your child can express his or her growing thinking ability and creativity in joyful way
Humor can be a best way in reprimanding your child; he or she will accept it well. Your child will correct his or her mistakes happily. The humorous way in reprimanding will also make your child feels appreciated.

What parents can do to develop the child’s sense of

humor?

Try to tell jokes and do funny act in front of your child whenever you can; especially when your child feels afraid
Be creative to develop your own style of humor. You may need to practice your humor ability; choose one that most suits your character and easiest for you to do.
Your child will imitate you. Support your child’s sense of humor with giving the good respons and laughing together.
Apply humor in your children life since their early years. Fulfill their golden years with laugh and joy!

Many families face the hard situation nowadays; if the sense of humor

always warms their home, they will cope this hard times properly; they won’t be drowned in problems.

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>> Jul 21, 2009

If you haven’t yet downloaded any specific browser for kids or filter content software; but your child is already eager to play internet, there is still other way out. There are many web sites for kids that may suite with your child needs. However, you should still watch and accompany your child to avoid him or her changing the present site.

There are many web sites recommended by the child expert. You can apply parent advice and the recommended web lists per age category (2-4, 5-8, 9-11, 12-14, and 15-17) in commonsensemedia.org to choose the site that appropriate with your child.

Fortunately, there are also FREE educational websites; your child can learn lots of things and you don’t have to pay anything! Well, in this post I will mention some great educational sites that are totally free for you :

;e-smartschool (situs pendidikan anak Indonesia untuk usia sekolah dasar)

Portal Pendidikan Anak ini meyajikan banyak materi yang menarik dan bermanfaat untuk anak Anda. Ditulis dengan bahasa sederhana dan mudah dimengerti, portal ini bisa membantu membimbing anak Anda dalam belajar dan menjalin komunikasi interaktif antara siswa, guru dan orang tua.

Materi e-smartschool terdiri dari berbagai kategori seperti pengetahuan komputer, pengetahuan umum (alam semesta, bumi dan alam lingkungan, manusia dan kehidupan, dunia binatang, dunia tumbuhan, serba-serbi, tokoh dunia, bank data), cerita anak (cerita asli Indonesia, umum dan manca negara), materi pelajaran sekolah (kelas 1 s/d. 6 SD), Bantu Saya (jika sudah menjadi anggota, anak Anda bisa menanyakan berbagai pertanyaan ke redaksi), untuk Orang Tua (tersedia kolom pakar dan forum diskusi), seputar pendidikan dan Karyaku (anak Anda bisa mengirimkan hasil karya seperti karangan, puisi atau gambar).

yahookids

This site is the new, improved Yahooligans -- Yahoo's answer to an online world for kids. There are Study Zone which has purpose to help school students. Science and nature section describes space, animals and dinosaurus. School and home work section allows your child to learn while playing; your child can learn language, art, math and social science. Around the world section is also interesting, your child can learn more about different countries in the world.

For parents and teachers, yahookids supplies many helpful informations and tips on giving the best education to children.

billybear4kids

This site is the good choice for your younger child. For games, activities, and educational content, kids can always count on Billy Bear for a good time! Billy Bear has games to play, storybooks to read, coloring pages,free wallpaper, clipart and screen savers to down load... lots of kids stuff to give away.

Drawing lessons with billy bear is so much fun. There will be step by step guidance to draw an object in every lesson like how to draw bear, cat, frog, bird,etc.

kids know it network

Kids know it is a great educational site. Hiram Bertoch, the founder, said that learning was mean to be both fun and free, not boring, and definitely not expensive. This site has done the mission very well; your child will get homework help in a number of subject areas including animals, astronomy, biology, chemistry, dinosaurs, geography, geology, history, human biology, math, memory, and spelling. Each one of these subject areas has games, activities, worksheets, and free online classes that your child can participate in.

More than thirty free educational movies are available for teachers to use to supplement their lessons. The movies cover such topics as planets, absolute values, adjectives, averages, eclipses, acceleration, hurricanes, and more. Each movie ends with an interactive online quiz. Additionally, a comprehensive database of educational songs can be used by teachers and students to enhance learning.

I hope this article can help you to choose the appropriate web sites with your child. Let's protect them from bad information in internet!

Child vs Television Violence

>> Jul 18, 2009

We are deeply in grief. Suicide bombing happened again in Jakarta, Indonesia. Before continuing writing this post, I would like to send my condolences to all victims and families that have suffered from a loss of their beloved. I hope this huge crime will be revealed soon.

Every time there’s a big incident like this, all news programs on television will show terrifying uncensored images such as the bloody victims, the building damages, people in panic, etc. straightly from the location. Your child may see all these terrifying images! Not only uncensored news images, your child may also see other television violence. Have you already known what will seeing television violence affect your child?

Until the age of seven years old, your child still can’t differentiate between reality from fantasy because they haven’t had the reasoning ability yet. Everything your child sees is real to her or him. If your child watches violence or unkind images on television; those images will stick to his or her brain.

Our Anniversary

>> Jul 14, 2009

Dear, husband…

It’s been seven years since you and I promised each other.
We’ve been through many things together, haven’t we?
.from sadness till happiness.
.from arguing till laughing.

.You’ve ever made me angry.
.You’ve ever made me disappointed.
.You’ve ever made me worried.
.You’ve ever made me cry.

.but you always make me laugh with your jokes.
.You always make me smile with your smile.
.You always make me warm with your love.
.You always make me comfort with your care.
.You always make me tough with your support.

.though there are still lots of hard to reach dreams.
.there aren’t yet small hands holding ours.
.there isn’t yet crying baby at home.
.there aren’t yet little feet steps around the house.
.there aren’t yet adorable eyes starring at us.
.it won’t make our love less strong.

.I know I’m not good in arranging beautiful words,
.but from the bottom of my heart, I just want to say,
.Thank you for your love, care and support for all these times.
.I love you, I’ll always do…

Four Parenting Styles

>> Jul 9, 2009

As I mentioned in my previous post, abusing is one of deviant parenting styles. Don’t do this! Each parent may use their own parenting style, but do you know that what you’ve done is the best to them? Applying the appropriate parenting style becomes crucial because whatever you do to your children will affect in their life in the future.

Some parents still make mistakes in parenting their child. To avoid making mistakes, you should know first what your present parenting style is. If you find that there’s a mistake, you can fix the problem immediately. Baumrind, Maccoby and Martin identified the parenting styles in early child development to four: authoritative, authoritarian, indulgent and neglectful.

Authoritative parenting

This parenting style encourages children to be independent but still places limits and controls on their actions. Authoritative parents allow the child to explore more freely and to make their own decisions based upon their own reasoning.

When punishing a child, the authoritative parents will always explain his or her motive for their punishment. The punishments are measured and consistent in discipline, not harsh or arbitrary. This is the most recommended parenting style by the child parenting experts.

Being raised with the authoritative style, the children will have a higher self esteem and independence because of the democratic nature. Children are often cheerful, self-controlled, self-confidence and achievement–oriented. They will keep friendly relations with peers, cooperate with adults, manage well with stress, do well in school and have a high academic competence.

Authoritarian parenting

Parents who apply this style expect children to comply with their demands and don’t allow for open dialogue between parent and child. Unlike the authoritative parents, authoritarian parents expect much of their child but don’t explain the reasoning for the rules or boundaries. They are unresponsive to children’s needs and are most likely to spank a child as a form of punishment.

Studies show that the children tend to be socially withdrawn, look to others to decide what’s right, lack of social independence, have low self esteem and low self confidence, have weak communication skills, lack of social academic competence, lack of spontaneity and curiosity. They are often unhappy, fearful and anxious about comparing themselves with others.

In the future, some children might also become a rebel by openly defying the parents and often might be estranged from their parents during adulthood. Authoritarian parents actually cause psychic destruction to their children.

Indulgent parenting

This parenting style is also known as permissive, nondirective or lenient parenting. Indulgent parents very involved with their children but place few demands or controls on them. They are very responsive to the child's needs and wishes and will do anything the child requests to do. Indulgent parents do not require their children to regulate themselves or behave appropriately. Some parents find it easier to communicate with their children in this way.

Children will rarely learn respect for others and have difficulty controlling their behavior. They might be domineering, egocentric, noncompliant, impulsive, and have difficulties in peer relations. When in trouble, the child will simply blame someone else even if it was his or her own fault. However, like a child raised in an authoritative parents and unlike a child raised in an authoritarian parents; the children will often continue to have a close and loving relationship with the parents in adulthood.

Neglectful parenting

Neglectful parenting is also called uninvolved, dismissive, or hands-off parenting. The parents are low in warmth and control, low in responsiveness, and do not set limits. Parents are unsupportive of their children, but will still provide basic needs for the child. Neglectful parents are focused on their own needs more than the needs of their own child.

Children often become immature, display contradictory behavior, tend to be socially incompetent, and frequently have low self-esteem. In adolescence, they may show patterns of truancy and delinquency. They often experience depression and social withdrawal, and are more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior and drugs than children of authoritative parents. Some children will grow up feeling hate against their parents and often might be estranged from them into adulthood.

Each parenting style will determine how the child’s life in the future. Since the authoritative style is the best parenting style, as parents, for the shake of your child’s life, you should try and do your best to apply this parenting style in your family.

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