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Saving Money:Teach It to Your Child!

>> Oct 5, 2009

I think all parents want their children to be successful persons in their future, right? The ability to manage finance well is one thing that a person should have to succeed, at least not get into financial problem. Don’t you agree with this also?

I know that this topic isn’t a new thing; but I want to make a post about it just for remembering parents. Children can’t understand the money concept and the importance of saving money by themselves. It’s the parents’ role! If you want your child has knowledge and ability to manage money in the future; as parents, it’s important to build the good financial habits since the early age.

First, you should introduce the money concept. If your child already recognizes numbers, you can begin introducing the coins money by teaching the value of each coin. As we all know, children are good watchers and like to imitate their parents. Before teaching your child how to save money, you can give example by always putting coins in a piggy bank in front of her/him. Explain that you put coins in the piggy bank because you want to use the money later. By asking your child to accompany you shopping in a store; you can also describe the money function as an exchange means.

When your child is old enough and already has an interest to own things that she/he likes, well, it’s the sign that you can start teaching saving money to your child. It’s the right time! When your child wants to have and buy something, tell her/him that she/he can buy it by saving money first. After browsing google, I found some useful tips that you can apply to motivate your child in learning to save money. Here are the practical guidance for you:

  • Give an allowance. Example: you give an allowance only $5 a week; but your child wants to buy a story book that costs $10. Let your child to make a decision about how much money she/he wants to save regularly. If your child can read and write already, teach her/him to write down spending and saving.
  • Use match savings. Offer a matching contribution for every dollar your child saves. As your child grows up, you can less the match percentage.
  • Encourage your child to make a wish list and display the pictures of the wanted items. If your child is saving money for a certain purpose, it can motivate her/him more.
  • Give awards. For your child’s effort of saving money, once in a while you may buy your child a gift or take your child out to her/his favorite place.
  • Open a saving account. If your child is old enough, encourage her/him to open a saving account in a bank and save part of her/his money on it. You can give the simple explanation about the bank functions and don’t forget to show the progress amount of your child’s bank account.
  • Introduce a budget in a simple way. Introduce what a budget is by giving your child a simple explanation that she/he must divide up the money to different posts every month. Teach your child to make her/his own budget; ask your child to divide her/his allowance to three parts: saving, charity and spending.
Not only saving money, you should let your children know how to earn money; they must know that money is earned through work. To your older child, you can make a daily job to do list and encourage your child to finish all tasks. If you’ve already given your child an allowance once a week, tell your child that it’s a weekly salary for finishing the jobs during the week.

You’ve introduced the money concept; but don’t forget to also teach the generosity to your child. Don’t let your child growing up to be a money-oriented person! Take your child to every charity event in your local community and every visit to a local orphanage. You can also give example by giving money to charity regularly or in special moments such as donating money or other things to victims of calamities.

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Build Your Child’s Good Moral Character from Home! (3)

>> Oct 1, 2009


I’ve mentioned 20 of 50 tips on how to build good moral character of your child in my previous posts. Just remembering, moral character building is the big task of parents; and parents can do this by starting it from their own home. Conveniently, I’ll mention the following tips for you:

21. Enrich your child’s vocabularies that express emotional feelings. This way is still related to the introducing your child the various kinds of emotion. You can make a list together with your child. Try to make a list of 50 words such as: happy, love, adore, disappointed, angry, hopeful, worried, hate, etc. Always add the list every time you find new words.

22. Give the compliment every time your child shows good behavior to others. It will motivate your child to always repeat the good behavior.

23. Avoid harsh and impolite words at home by applying the house rule: always use polite words at home.

24. Avoid harsh action at home by applying the house rule: hands and legs are not being used to hurt other family member.

25. Be a secret admirer. Ask your child to observe someone secretly; it could be a family member, a neighbor or someone else that you recognize well. Discuss with your child about the ways that you can do together to please him/her; and then do the kindness to that person! I’ll give you some ideas here: you and your child can arrange the surprise birthday party, send a flowers gift, send a framed poem or a picture or a photo, etc.

26. Tell your child to give priority to truth and honesty.

27. Give the straight guidance to your child how to interact politely with others.
28. Play the changing of roles once in a while. It will teach your child how to be empathy. Give your child a chance to feel how to be someone else. Ex: for 10-15 minutes, let your child act as a mother/father and you act as a child. See what happens…

29. Introduce your child to the virtuous person in your area or read the life story of famous and virtuous people. Your child can learn from it!

30. Teach your child to respect other’s belongings. If your child brings home toys from neighbor, you must explain that it’s not right thing to do. Encourage her/him to return the toys. Your child must understand and respect property right or ownership.

31. Teach your child to care about the house and also environment cleanness. Always giving good example by throwing rubbish at its place. Ask your child to clean the house together at lease once a month or you can delegate the house tasks that your child must do frequently (of course, you must adjust the house task with your child’s age).

32. Keep your promise to your child. Don’t ever make a promise that you can’t fulfill. If you’ve made a promise, but it turns out that you can’t accomplish it; again, don’t be hesitant to ask forgiveness to your child.

33. Teach your child to express his/her opinion. Ask what’s in your child’s mind about something that you face together. Ex: your child see a friend crying on the first day at school; you can discuss this; ask your child to share his/her mind about what makes his/her friend sad.

34. Teach your child the causal rule; so that your child will know exactly the consequences that may happen every time making a mistake. Ex: “If you let your bike in the rain outside, it will be rusty and easily broken”. Explaining it with the causal rule like this will encourage your child to take care of his/her belongings well.

35. Don’t lie to your child. You can explain something in another way and words, but try not to lie. If your child knows that you’re lying, don’t hesitate to admit your mistake and ask your child to forgive you.

36. Teach your child to appreciate the value of money. There are some methods that you can apply such as giving allowance once a week so that your child can learn to manage the money. Let your child to learn about making priority of his/her money. For younger child, you can show an example how to save money by putting money into a piggy bank; do this in front of your child.

37. Don’t ask your child to lie for you. Many parents do this mistake; but actually; it’s similar with teaching your child how to lie. So, parents, avoid doing this!

38. Teach your child to always say “Thank you” every time receiving something from others; even tough your child doesn’t like it.

39. Play the eye contact game with your child. Teach your child to be able to make an eye contact with other person by playing this eye contact game.

40. Give your child a true or false test. You can make a list of simple statements such as sky is blue; brothers can hit one another; knife is sharp; you can throw rubbish to the river, etc. Ask your child to appraise each statement; which is true and false.

I haven’t yet finished with these tips (I hope you aren’t bored); there are still ten tips that I want to share with you…

rewrite source: Nova tabloid and google

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Watch Out for the Danger Signs in Your Marriage!

>> Sep 28, 2009

When we say,” I do” on our wedding day, of course, we’re dreaming of living in a happy marriage life; but sometimes life doesn’t go on as we want it to be, right? We all know that marriage life has its ups and downs; but how if you begin to feel: there’s something wrong, there’s something hurts you or there’s something that makes you uncomfortable, and you don’t know what exactly it is...

A broken marriage may start from a problem that let unsolved for along time. You can’t ignore any problem. No matter what small a problem is, it can be the discomfort source in your relationship. Moreover, it can lead to negative thinking such as a desire to divorce (oh, no!). Knowing from the beginning the danger signs in a marriage will help you a lot. You can anticipate what have hurt you or what have made you uncomfortable. Then, you’ll understand where you should focus into.

Use the list below to see how many are there that actually happens in your marriage life. Though there are only three from the list that match with your real situation, your marriage is in danger and you are in a serious problem if you don’t make any change soon! So please, read these SIGNS carefully:


  • Every time you’ve finished your work hours, you feel hard, unenthusiastic, and lazy to come home to see your spouse.

  • You feel ‘afraid’ every time your spouse is trying to start a conversation; because you think that something hurts you will happen.

  • There’s only a little conversation topics that you can talk with your spouse enjoyably.

  • Things of your spouse that you admire before change into something that bother you.

  • At present time, you’ve never done things that you used to do it together enjoyably before; in fact, it becomes things that you avoid because it isn’t enjoyable anymore and it may hurt you.

  • You feel that your spouse doesn’t love you anymore or even hate you.
  • You have a desire to cheat your spouse or to get a divorce.

  • When you want to make any important decision that relates on children and finance matter; you assume your spouse almost like your enemy.

  • At a party or other gathering event, you criticize or even humiliate your spouse (or vice versa) in public, in front of guests and friends; and you don’t feel guilty having done it.

  • Your unhappy marriage life makes you more sarcastic and pessimistic with others who have better marriage life’s condition.

  • You are in deep sadness because your marriage isn’t the marriage that you’ve dreamt of. You are so disappointed with your marriage.

  • It seems that your hope and your dream in your marriage life may not be realized anymore.
Thank God, there’s no danger sign happens in my marriage. How about you? Have you counted? Did you find any danger sign that happens in your marriage? If you experience one or more of the signs, don’t postpone it, you should take it seriously and focus on fixing the problem. By recognizing these danger signs, I hope that your marriage can be maintained.
Rewrite source: Nova tabloid and google

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A Cute Tag

>> Sep 22, 2009

Awards and tags are wandering in blogger world. I received this cute tag (my first also) from my friend Risma-Mommy Mayonnaise. I must answer quite long questions here; but it’s ok, I think it’s enjoyable enough…(furthermore, I should update my blog).

1.What time did you get up this morning?
5 am. After having a prayer, I did some house tasks. The house is still full of visitors now, my brothers from other town with their wives and children are coming here to celebrate Idul Fitri together.
2. How do you like your steak?
Well done one, it’s more safe to eat, right?
3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema?
Yesterday, with my sister in-laws, we watched “Ketika Cinta Bertasbih 2”, an Indonesian movie.
4. What is your favorite TV show?
Talkshow, news.
5. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be?
Turkey, I think…
6. What did you have for breakfast?
Fried noodle.
7. What is your favorite cuisine?
Indonesian food. But I like to taste other kind of food…
8. What foods do you dislike?
Foods that too salty and greasy.
9. Favorite place to eat?
Several restaurants in Bogor city.
10. Favorite dressing?
Thousand island.
11. What kind of vehicle do you drive?
I don’t drive any vehicle now. My hubby won’t let me; but perhaps one day…
12. What are your favorite clothes?
Simple and casual things.
13. Where would you visit if you had the chance?
Turkey, Egypt.
14. Cup 1/2 empty or 1/2 full?
1/2 full, I’m trying to think positively.
15. Where would you want to retire?
Bogor, Indonesia. I’ve ever stayed in several cities, but Bogor is I like most.
16. Favorite time of day?
Morning…
17. Where were you born?
Bogor, Indonesia.
18. What is your favorite sport to watch?
Basketball. I like to see their fast movement!
19. Who do you think will not tag you back?
I don’t know.
20. Person you expect to tag you back first?
Have no idea…
21. Who are you most curious about their responses to this?
No one, I love to know others’ responses.
22. Bird watcher?
Sometimes, from the big window of our bedroom…
23. Are you a morning person or a night person?
I’m a morning person.
24. Do you have any pets?
Yes. A female cat.
25. Any new and exciting news you’d like to share?
My big family are gathering now to celebrate Idul Fitri.
26. What did you want to be when you were little?
A doctor. I can’t achieve this dream cause it turned out that I’m afraid of seeing blood…
27. What is your best childhood memory?
Spending times together with my late Mom... I miss you, Mom!
29. Are you married?
Of course; even tough we have no child yet, we have a happy marriage life. I hope we can keep this for the following years…
30. Always wear your seat belt?
Yes, it’s important for your safety! My hubby have ever got a car accident several years ago. Thank God, he just had small injury because he wore the seatbelt when it happened.
31. Been in a car accident?
I hope never!
32. Any pet peeves?
I can’t answer this, don’t know what it means…
33. Favorite Pizza Toppings?
I have no favorite one, I like to try each kind of toppings, ha3x...
34. Favorite Flower?
I think all flowers are beautiful…
35. Favorite ice cream?
I can’t eat ice cream, I’m allergic to any cold foods. Poor me …
36. Favorite fast food restaurant?
There’s one place in my city…
37. How many times did you fail your driver’s test?
None.
38. From whom did you get your last email?
From blogcatalog.
39. Which store would you choose to max out your credit card?
I don’t like credit card, so, I have no credit card. Have no idea about the store either...
40. Do anything spontaneous lately?
I think I am not a spontaneous person…
41. Like your job?
As a stay at home wife, of course! I hope I’ll be a work at home woman also…
42. Broccoli?
Like it…
43. What was your favorite vacation?
With my big family we go to Pangandaran Beach…
44. Last person you went out to dinner with?
My brothers and their wives…
45. What are you listening to right now?
Radio…
46. What is your favorite color?
I like all soft colors, black and dark brown…
47. How many tattoos do you have?
None, I avoid tattoos…
48. How many are you tagging for this quiz?
Have no idea…
49. What time did you finish this quiz?
6.45 am
50. Coffee drinker?
Not anymore, I switch it; I’m trying to be a green tea drinker now…

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Conscience = God-Spot ?

>> Sep 15, 2009

In just a few more days, Muslims in the world will celebrate Idul Fitri 1430 H. Having done fasting a whole month, Muslims hope to be able to be ‘fitrah’ again. Celebrating this holy day inspires me to write a little bit on relationship between human and The Most Great, God.

First, I’ll ask you to answer several questions below with your conscience:


  • When you’re eating at a place on the side of the road, suddenly a little girl stands up in front of you and she’s starring at the food that you hold on. What is your appeared conscience to the girl at that time?
    Your conscience will answer: I want to give the food to her.

  • You are in a clean room with the glow marble floor. There’s a man passing by and throws a used cigarette to the clean floor. What is your appeared conscience?Your conscience will answer: I want to keep clean the room, so I’ll take and throw the used cigarette into a wastebasket.
People around the world will have the same conscience’s answers. Whether they are poor, wealthy, and different in race, religion and nationality; they will feel the same conscience, if they are in ‘fitrah’ condition. So, it means that human actually have the same conscience or we can say that conscience is basically universal. This is called God-Spot or fitrah.

The scientific proof about God-Spot was stated by V.S. Ramachandran, a neurologist. With the team of California University, they found the existence of God-Spot in human brain. God-Spot is a built-in spiritual center that located between human nerve and brain tissues. Whatever consciences are there in God-Spot? A scientific knowledge still can’t identify and answer this question.

Menurut Al Qur’an, sebelum bumi dan manusia diciptakan, ruh manusia telah mengadakan perjanjian dengan Sang Pencipta :
Allah bertanya kepada jiwa manusia, “Bukankah Aku Tuhanmu?”
Ruh manusia menjawab, “ Ya, kami bersaksi…!” (QS. Al A’raf ayat 172).
Bukti adanya perjanjian ini ialah adanya fitrah iman di dalam jiwa manusia – adanya suara hati manusia. Suara hati adalah suara Tuhan di dalam jiwa manusia.
Jika dibandingkan dengan literatur barat yang menjelaskan tentang kecerdasan emosi, maka dapat diketahui dan dirasakan bahwa 99 sifat-sifat Allah SWT yang terdapat dalam Al Qur’an merupakan sumber dari segala suara hati manusia. Untuk Sobat Muslim, ada cara untuk ‘menemukan’ suara hati: bacalah 99 sifat Allah secara perlahan dengan hati terdalam dan temukan getarannya pada lubuk hati Anda. Apabila Anda belum bisa merasakannya, berhentilah, tarik nafas dalam-dalam, dan ulangi lagi…

Conscience is God’s saying that recorded in human’s soul. If a man wants to do a bad thing, his conscience will forbid him for doing it, because God don’t like a bad deed. If the man still does the bad thing, his conscience will give advice; and it usually ends up with regret. Regret is a ‘coming back sign’ to God.

But sometimes conscience can be closed and blind. There are seven factors that may close and fetter someone’s God-Spot, so that this man will have low emotional intelligence and can’t hear the guiding conscience. We can hear our conscience clearly if we are free from : negative prejudices, misleading life principles, experiences that influence mind, egoism in priority and interest, subjective comparisons, narrow point of views and misleading literatures.

Take time to THINK. It is the source of power.
Take time to READ. It is the foundation of wisdom.
Take time to QUIET. It is the opportunity to seek God.
Take time to DREAM. It is the future made of.
Take time to PRAY. It is the greatest power on earth
.
-Author unknown-
Rewrite source : ESQ by Ary Ginanjar Agustian and google

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