How to Create a Good Relationship – Ways to Build a Strong Foundation for Your Relationship

Creating an almost perfect relationship is also an almost impossible task to do. Especially if you’re still a newbie in the game called “Love”. This is just like any other game, with different levels (easy, normal, hard, and impossible). You’ll level up through experience. Not from monsters and quests, but from trials and errors.

Guidelines to a Good RelationshipThe good thing is just like other games, it also have some “Cheats”. We can obtain high level relationship with this cheats. These cheats are hidden through these tips:

Being selfish is forbidden.You must see your relationship as an opportunity to give rather than to receive. You should treat your partner as your Queen or King. Help them with all your heart. Don’t hesitate to lend your hands.

Changes are part of your relationship.You can’t take away the possibility that your partner will ask you to change something. Be open for changes, because these changes can improve your relationship. But be sure that these changes are meant for improvement and not for personal reasons only.

Listening is essential.This is one of the basic problems in the relationship. Its either one of you doesn’t want to listen or both of you don’t want to do it. You should listen to each and every thing that he/she wants to tell. And please, listen carefully. For these are the clues to know what he/she wants and doesn’t want.

Share Secrets.Be open to each other. Share your confidential secrets, and especially the secrets that are related to your relationship. Don’t be shy to let him/her know your secrets. Sharing secret to a person is a simple way of saying that you trust him/her. Tell him/her whenever you’re mad, scared, lonely, happy and in trouble. Just say everything to your partner, and you’re relationship won’t be wrong.

Keep your promises.
Promises are not meant to be broken. You should try your best to keep those promises. Don’t let him/her to be disappointed. If you can’t keep your promises, he/she won’t trust you anymore. You will lose your integrity.

Don’t ever cheat.Seeing someone else without his/her knowledge is an obvious crime of being unfaithful. You won’t gain anything with cheating. The only victim if you’ll ever cheat is yourself, because in the end, you will recognize your mistakes and it will be late for any reconciliation.

Be supportive.
Support every right decision that he/she will make. Don’t ever tell him/her what to do. Just give some advice.

Admit your mistakes.If you ever commit a mistake, have the courage to admit it. Don’t push that you’re always right. This is also one of the basics in a relationship. Admit mistakes and learn from those mistakes. Have a limitation for you to never commit the same mistake again and again.

And last, Sacrifice.This is the most important tip that I can give you. I you really love him/her you won’t think twice to sacrifice for her. Love is full of sacrifices and respect. You both won’t last if you’ll just gain, try to give more of yourself to him/her.

You can’t go wrong if you just do these things. These can guide you both for a good relationship that has the strong foundation to last for a lifetime. Every one like a perfect relationship but not all people can get it. Love your partner as if there’s no tomorrow. Good luck!

Author’s Bio:
Jay Dawber, is an ordinary guy who is a father of two and a good husband to his wife. But besides of being a good dad, he wants to prove his suspicions that his wife is cheating on him. He seen all the signs but can’t do anything to catch her in action. He tried everything but always ends up failing. And after some frustrations and dull moment, he discovered a very easy method to catch your cheating spouse. And he wants to share it to every men, having this scenario in the present.

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Ready to Plant

Soon the rice plant will grow on this muddy field. The ground has been ready. Water is really required to plant the rice.
The field is located around the fishing place in Kampung Katulampa (Bogor, West Java,Indonesia). I forgot to bring camera, I just used camera on mobile phone.

My entry for Watery Wednesday

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Fresh Fish to Your Door

I seldom buy fish and prawns in the market or store. I usually get it from this vendor. The quality isn’t bad at all. Unfortunately, as Sunday has become our fishing day, I must say to him several times that I already have enough fish for half week ahead.

Fish is a healthy food. Do you like eating fish? How do you get it? Is there a fish vendor like this in your place?

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Begging Face

A cat was nearing us while we’re eating at a restaurant. A hungry cat, I guess. Then the cat ate what we ate. After a while, she/he left us. I think the cat was already full. This cat has beautiful eyes, right?

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CC: I Cried a River

I share the continuing of my last week story: When I thought It was Over. After my father got very angry with us, I remembered that at night, I can’t sleep at all and cried a river for hours. My head and heart was full of negative emotions and minds. It was one sad night at September, 2001.

To answer Liz question, I can say here that we weren’t young couple; both of us were 29 years old. It’s not our age that made my father angry.

I was feeling so sad and hopeless. I missed my mother so much; as she had passed away two years before (in 1999). I knew that my late mother blessed our relationship since she met Rofi in his dream and she gave her blessing to us. After my mother died, there were only two of us at home, me and my father. I promised to myself to always accompany my father. I thought Rofi was the right man for me as he was willing to live with me and my father at the same house.

That’s why I felt so disappointed with my father. Not only disappointed, but also shocked. I didn’t want to confront with my father straightly but I still wanted to state my disagreement with him. I still did the home chores and served food for my father as usual; but I avoid communicating with him. It happened for about three months. Can you imagine how quiet the house was? There were only two of us at home, but we didn’t talk each other. I was in my protest!

For those three months, I still met Rofi once in a while; but we always met outside. He always convinced me that we had a strong love. All we had to do was more patient. I’ll continue this story next week; you’ll know how my father can finally accept our relationship.

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Water Features at Atta’awun Mosque

Atta’awun is a famous mosque in Puncak area (Cisarua, West Java, Indonesia). The mosque is famous for its unique architecture and beautiful natural view. Around the mosque, there are water features that I share here. At the entrance there is a pool of water as a symbol of self cleaning before entering the mosque. Interior of the mosque seems so majestic. Right next to the mosque there is a river that flows from the springs of Gunung Mas tea plantation. This river water was very cool.

Its courtyard and parking lot have become favorite rest area, since from the spot, you can enjoy the cool air and views of tea gardens. At the mosque parking area, lots of food stalls offer roasted corn snacks, hot ‘sekoteng’ drink, and meatballs. Those are kinds of food and drink that suit in cold weather.

My entry for

Watery Wednesday

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Homemaking Jobs

This time I want to share a comic by Lynn Johnston; about Liz and John family. I realize that until now, there are still a few husbands out there that can't see homemaking jobs as valuable works since it has no economical value. Wives do it with love, free of charge, without being paid.

Homemaking is a mainly American term for the management of a home, otherwise known as housework, housekeeping or household management.

This domestic consumption work creates goods and services within a household, such as meals, childcare, household repairs, or the manufacture of clothes and gifts. Common tasks include cleaning, cooking, and looking after children. A person in charge of the homemaking, who isn't employed outside the home, is in the U.S. and Canada often called a homemaker, a gender-neutral term for a housewife or a househusband.

Housekeeping

Housekeeping by the homemaker is the care and control of property, ensuring its maintenance and proper use and appearance. Housework is work done by the act of housekeeping. Some housekeeping is housecleaning and some housekeeping is home chores. Home chores are housework that needs to be done at regular intervals.

Housekeeping includes the budget and control of expenditures, preparing meals and buying food, paying the heat bill, and cleaning the house. Outdoor housecleaning chores include removing leaves from rain gutters, washing windows, sweeping doormats, cleaning the pool, putting away lawn furniture, and taking out the trash.

Home and Lawn Maintenance

Home maintenance involves the diagnosis and resolution of problems in a home, and is related to home maintenance to avoid such problems. Many types of maintenance are "Do It Yourself" (DIY) projects. Maintenance is not necessarily the same as home improvement, although many improvements can result from repairs or maintenance.

Homemakers that have a lawn responsibility adhere to seasonal lawn care practices, which vary to some extent depending on the climate zone and type of grass that is grown (whether cool season or warm season varieties).

Household Management

Household management by the homemaker is the act of control the organizational, financial, and day-to-day operations of a house. It differs from housekeeping, which consists of the physical maintenance and cleaning of a house.

Household Purchasing

Household purchasing refers to homemaker's effort to get goods or services to finish the goals of the household. Though there are several households that attempt to set standards in the purchasing process, processes can vary greatly between households. Home makers decide the market goods that the household will buy, such as the groceries which have been bough at a grocer's.

So, husbands, please don’t underestimate homemaking jobs, especially if your wife –the homemaker- is a housewife or stay at home wife. Don’t say something like “I’m tired; I’ve worked all day!” It will hurt your wife’s heart!

For your information, some feminists as well as certain non-feminist economists mention that the monetary contribution of housewives' work to society is still ignored in standard formulations of economic output, such as GDP or employment figures.

I’m a housewife. Thanks to the internet, now I can participate in adding fund to our household income.

Data source:wikipedia

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