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Couple's Corner: Breakfast in Bed

>> Feb 25, 2010

Breakfast in bed is one of my hubby’s favorites. We do this often! I don’t meet my hubby everyday now, but he can go back home from his work place every three days. Most of week ends, he must work.

So, during his days at home, every breakfast time is breakfast in bed. There’s nothing special about the meal. A cup of coffee is a must, and also a glass of warm water. He likes to have toasted bread for breakfast.

Of course, I always accompany him. While having breakfast, we usually watch news on television. I really enjoy the times when we can be together like this because we can’t do it everyday…

Simple things like breakfast in bed can be romantic enough, right? You don’t have to go to an expensive dining place to have sweet moments together. Hehehe, sorry, this time, my story is very short. I invite you to join or to read other’s story by clicking the badge above.

When do You Need to Start Saving Your Marriage?

>> Feb 24, 2010

When you say,” I do” on your wedding day, of course, you are dreaming of living in a happy marriage life; but sometimes life doesn’t go on as we want it to be. Marriage itself is a difficult commitment and marriage life has its ups and downs. But how if you begin to feel: there is something wrong, there is something hurts you or there is something that makes you uncomfortable, and you don’t know what exactly it is.

A broken marriage may start from a problem that lets unsolved for along time. You can’t ignore any problem. No matter what small a problem is, it can become the discomfort source in your relationship. Moreover, it can lead to the negative thinking such as a desire to divorce. Knowing from the beginning the danger signs in a marriage will help you a lot. You can anticipate what have hurt you or what have made you uncomfortable. To be able to save your marriage, you should realize in advance whenever you need a marriage help.

If you start to feel uneasy for any reason about your marriage, or even if you want to make sure you’re on the right track, marriage counseling might be for you. If you make this decision earlier rather than later, you can improve your communication and perhaps strengthen your marriage even more.

You shouldn’t wait until worse thing happens in your marriage like infidelity, emotional abuse, neglect or something bad else. If you feel consistently unhappy when you spend time with your spouse, it can be a sign that you need to save your marriage. If your marriage is in trouble, it will affect other areas of your life. You may feel depressed or unhappy in many areas of your life because you are too busy worrying about your marriage.

You and your spouse may also consider on participating in a marriage retreat. It can also be a perfect way for you to reconnect and focus on your marriage. Your life is so busy; so, it will be nice to have a special time together to just discuss your marriage and reconnect one another. Whatever way you choose to save your marriage, the most important point is, save your marriage earlier!

To be a Good Husband Guidance (2)

>> Feb 21, 2010

Hi, nice to see you again. This Sunday I’ll share the continuing of how to be a good husband tips. Check it out…

4. Don’t bring your own issues into the marriage
All of us have emotional baggage. When you marry, you bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. When your wife comes to you for support, that isn’t the time to open up that emotional baggage. There are times when you can unload this stuff on your wife, but not when she needs your support.

It’s common for a man to internalize all her problems and make them our own. But if you do this, you are losing sight of why she confided in you in the first place. Don’t be selfish when you are supposed to be supportive.

5. Know when to make it about you
Of course, it can’t always be about her or the marriage. There are times when your needs should be met. That’s the definition of a give-and-take partnership, which is what a marriage should be about.

Tell her how you feel, but don’t put her in a defensive position.
This means you describe to her how something she does affects you without making your feelings accusatory. When you talk about issues in your marriage, tell her about how it affects you instead of what it is about her that bothers you. Good communication is one of the keys of a healthy marriage; good communication requires you to tell her how you are affected.

If your wife does something that hurts you, tell her exactly that you are hurt. Don’t focus on her actions, but on the consequences of those actions. If you simply accuse her of undermining you or being insensitive, it automatically puts her on the defensive. When she’s defensive about her actions, good communication becomes all but impossible.

6. Be affectionateWomen need affection sometimes.
If you show your wife spontaneous affection occasionally, it reassures her of the love bond.

7. Be willing to get outside help
There’s the common joke about men refusing to ask for directions. Men throughout history have needed to be self-sufficient. That’s one of the characteristics which make men successful. When we were out in the wilderness hunting for food, we couldn’t stop at the convenience store to ask where the herd was.

A smart man has to realize when he can’t do it all himself. One of those cases is the man whose marriage is in trouble. It’s very standard for a man to refuse to go to a marriage counselor.

A man would prefer to buy a map than ask for directions. In the same way, he would rather read how-to guides on how to save his marriage than ask for professional help. In a lot of cases, getting good advice is enough. Modifying our attitudes and the subsequent behaviors those attitudes cause can have profound effects on a failing marriage. But sometimes the problems run deeper. That’s when a man has to give into his wife’s request that they speak to a counselor.

Professional marriage counselors can be a great help. They are instructors in how to listen, how to show respect, how to avoid judgment, how to be a part of the team, how to express your feelings and how to be more affectionate. In short, when a man finds that his best efforts to improve his marriage skills fail, he needs a trained instructor to work on those skills.

Again, this guidance mentions ideal things. But anyway, husbands (and wives) can learn from this. It needs effort from both sides to maintain a marriage…

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CC: Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?

>> Feb 18, 2010

This question seems like a silly question, but I think, most wives have ever asked the same question to their husbands. Why? Most women need to feel secure and need to be assured that their husbands won’t leave them and will always love them forever.

I myself have ever asked this question to my hubby, in the first year of our marriage. He can answer my question perfectly. He said that he loves my heart and personalities, he can accept me completely; and it won’t change until death do us part. I feel safe and secure emotionally, and I think, we, wives need this secure feeling. Until now, I’ve never asked my hubby this question anymore.

As a wife, it isn’t wise to ask this question too often to your husband. It expresses your distrust and your lack of self esteem. Moreover, he will feel annoyed with your questions! I guess he will say something like this: Why you don’t trust my love to you? or Why you always ask me the same question? or What I have to do to make you believe in me? or I’m bored to answer your question…

If you have get your answer or you can see the answer in how he treats you, don’t questioning your husband’s love again. It’s better to convey and maintain your love every day than always questioning it.

Well, it’s my story and a brief of my opinion. You can join us in CC or read other’s story by clicking the badge above. Enjoy your marriage life, every one…

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We’ve already had our car for a few years, but we haven’t yet provided it with insurance. We know, it’s not a wise thing to do; but for us, buying insurance isn’t an easy job. Due to our tight budget, we have to choose a legit insurance company which offers chap auto insurance.

Why you should have car auto insurance? Well, you need it to protect your own safety and security. If something happens, it will permit you to avoid financial responsibility. Auto insurance will help you to get over the financial problem that may occur!

Fortunately, a friend introduced us to a website : TopCheapInsurance.com. This site will help you to decide which proper insurance company will give you the best services and prices. You can find there a comparison insurance rate and instant insurance quotes. This comparison can be your guidance in reaching your final decision.

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If you still don’t have car auto insurance until now, don’t hesitate to visit TopCheapInsurance.com to seek more details regarding insurance. Reading all articles there and then you will know what you should do next.

To be a Good Husband Guidance

>> Feb 17, 2010

I’ve made posts on qualities in a good wife. You might think how about qualities in a good husband that a wife likes? Well, this post is the answer, it’s husband’s turn now. I found this article; and I want to share it here. Happy reading…

When you were single, you could focus on your needs entirely. Now that you’re in a partnership, it just isn’t going to work. Sometimes you have to think about the family and the marriage before you think about yourself.

A marriage is a complicated thing. Being a good

husband spans a lot of territory. Sure, you need to support your family financially and raise your children with love and concern. These are two of the givens of being a good husband. But these aren’t the only duties of being a good husband.
When you talk about the interpersonal dynamics of a man/wife relationship, a lot of these dynamics involve how you communicate with one another. We send both intentional and unintentional signals to our spouse through our interpersonal communications. So a large part of being a good husband in this context is showing you are a part of the team, supporting your teammate while communicating when your need support in your turn.

1. Be Her Sounding Board
When your wife tells you her problems, she isn’t necessarily looking for a problem solver. She wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what’s going on in her life.
A husband who hears about his wife’s problems instinctively wants to come to the rescue. But most of the time, this isn’t what your wife is looking for. You need to fill the role more of a psychologist than that of a troubleshooter. Listen to her problems; show concern for those problems; show that you have empathy; but don’t always reply with “here’s what you need to do.”

When your wife comes to you with her problems, she isn’t looking for you to be her lawyer. And she certainly doesn’t need you to be her football coach, giving her fiery motivational speeches about how to beat her problem. She wants a counselor, to listen to her problems and help her deal with their emotional impact.
2. Show Respect
A major part of showing respect is to avoid the trap of being hyper-critical. Don’t criticize the way your wife dresses, cooks meals, parks the car or walks the dog. You might think you are instructing your wife, but you are actually showing disrespect for the decisions you make.

Actions are just as important as words. Don’t make decisions that normally a married couple makes together. This shows you have no respect for her opinion.
Also, try to avoid certain intonations with your wife, the kind that can be described as “talking down” to her. A woman can pick up on these as well or better than a man can. These tell her you have contempt for whatever is she’s doing, that you are treating her like a child or even your pet. Showing a lack of respect is one of the surest ways to poison a marriage.

3. Avoid Judgment
Try not to sweat the little stuff, because it has a way of becoming big rather quickly. If you judge every action or opinion your wife has, that’s going to come through in your words and actions.

Your wife is different from you. Of course she isn’t going to perceive things the way you do. She’s had different life experiences than you, not the least of which is the general experience of living life as a woman. She won’t always like what you like. She won’t behave like a man does.

It’s a good article, right? Hope husbands can learn from this. I’ll divide it into two posts, so, see you…
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Camera Critters : a Green Dragonfly

>> Feb 13, 2010

For this week, I want to share a picture from a friend. I seldom see dragonflies, so, I really like this. I forgot when is the last time I saw a dragon fly. Why dragonflies are rare nowadays?