Having a

Happy Family

is the main goal in life. Family is also the favorite destination because there is safe, warm, comfort, motivation and support.

Humor is important!

>> Jul 25, 2009

Why humor is important in your relationship and marriage life?
  • Many relationships without sense of humor wouldn’t last long
  • Humor is an essential ingredient of a meaningful relationship
  • Life is too hard to face with someone who takes life too seriously
  • Laughter is a great stress-reliever
  • Humor can break the arguing
  • Sharing humor can lead to build a deep bond relationship
  • Sense of humor can help you through the hard times in more optimistic way
  • Your spouse’s humorous words can help you out from your bad mood
  • Humor will constantly lighten and brighten your days
  • Humor is a diversion therapy from the difficulties of your daily life
  • Sense of humor can train you to see the positive side of your life
  • The more you share humor with your spouse, the healthier your relationship will be
  • Laughter is a natural medicine; every time you laugh, your body will release endorphins that create good mood and positive emotion. Even laughing at yourself can make you feel better!
Why
humor is important for your children?
  • Children’ sense of humor can increase their intelligence.An expert said that children’ sense of humor has straight relations with intelligence, creativity, social ability, empathy, self confidence, self appraisal and the higher problem solving ability. A child with a good sense of humor will be more likeable by his or her peers and adults.
  • Laughing together can increase the bond between parents and child
  • Children’ sense of humor can increase the children development function. With humor, your child can express his or her growing thinking ability and creativity in joyful way
  • Humor can be a best way in reprimanding your child; he or she will accept it well. Your child will correct his or her mistakes happily. The humorous way in reprimanding will also make your child feels appreciated.

What parents can do to develop the child’s sense of
humor?
  • Try to tell jokes and do funny act in front of your child whenever you can; especially when your child feels afraid
  • Be creative to develop your own style of humor. You may need to practice your humor ability; choose one that most suits your character and easiest for you to do.
  • Your child will imitate you. Support your child’s sense of humor with giving the good respons and laughing together.
  • Apply humor in your children life since their early years. Fulfill their golden years with laugh and joy!
Many families face the hard situation nowadays; if the sense of humor
always warms their home, they will cope this hard times properly; they won’t be drowned in problems.rewrite from several sources

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Family-Safe Internet (3)

>> Jul 21, 2009

If you haven’t yet downloaded any specific browser for kids or filter content software; but your child is already eager to play internet, there is still other way out. There are many web sites for kids that may suite with your child needs. However, you should still watch and accompany your child to avoid him or her changing the present site.

There are many web sites
recommended by the child expert. You can apply parent advice and the recommended web lists per age category (2-4, 5-8, 9-11, 12-14, and 15-17) in commonsensemedia.org to choose the site that appropriate with your child.

Fortunately, there are also FREE educational websites; your child can learn lots of things and you don’t have to pay anything! Well, in this post I will mention some great educational sites that are totally free for you :

;e-smartschool (situs pendidikan anak Indonesia untuk usia sekolah dasar)

Portal Pendidikan Anak ini meyajikan banyak materi yang menarik dan bermanfaat untuk anak Anda. Ditulis dengan bahasa sederhana dan mudah dimengerti, portal ini bisa membantu membimbing anak Anda dalam belajar dan menjalin komunikasi interaktif antara siswa, guru dan orang tua.
Materi e-smartschool terdiri dari berbagai kategori seperti pengetahuan komputer, pengetahuan umum (alam semesta, bumi dan alam lingkungan, manusia dan kehidupan, dunia binatang, dunia tumbuhan, serba-serbi, tokoh dunia, bank data), cerita anak (cerita asli Indonesia, umum dan manca negara), materi pelajaran sekolah (kelas 1 s/d. 6 SD), Bantu Saya (jika sudah menjadi anggota, anak Anda bisa menanyakan berbagai pertanyaan ke redaksi), untuk Orang Tua (tersedia kolom pakar dan forum diskusi), seputar pendidikan dan Karyaku (anak Anda bisa mengirimkan hasil karya seperti karangan, puisi atau gambar).

yahookids


This site is the new, improved Yahooligans -- Yahoo's answer to an online world for kids. There are Study Zone which has purpose to help school students. Science and nature section describes space, animals and dinosaurus. School and home work section allows your child to learn while playing; your child can learn language, art, math and social science. Around the world section is also interesting, your child can learn more about different countries in the world.
For parents and teachers, yahookids supplies many helpful informations and tips on giving the best education to children.

billybear4kids


This site is the good choice for your younger child. For games, activities, and educational content, kids can always count on Billy Bear for a good time! Billy Bear has games to play, storybooks to read, coloring pages,free wallpaper, clipart and screen savers to down load... lots of kids stuff to give away.

Drawing lessons with billy bear is so much fun. There will be step by step guidance to draw an object in every lesson like how to draw bear, cat, frog, bird,etc.

kids know it network


Kids know it is a great educational site. Hiram Bertoch, the founder, said that learning was mean to be both fun and free, not boring, and definitely not expensive. This site has done the mission very well; your child will get homework help in a number of subject areas including animals, astronomy, biology, chemistry, dinosaurs, geography, geology, history, human biology, math, memory, and spelling. Each one of these subject areas has games, activities, worksheets, and free online classes that your child can participate in.

More than thirty free educational movies are available for teachers to use to supplement their lessons. The movies cover such topics as planets, absolute values, adjectives, averages, eclipses, acceleration, hurricanes, and more. Each movie ends with an interactive online quiz. Additionally, a comprehensive database of educational songs can be used by teachers and students to enhance learning.

I hope this article can help you to choose the appropriate web sites with your child. Let's protect them from bad information in internet!

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Child vs Television Violence

>> Jul 18, 2009



We are deeply in grief. Suicide bombing happened again in Jakarta, Indonesia. Before continuing writing this post, I would like to send my condolences to all victims and families that have suffered from a loss of their beloved. I hope this huge crime will be revealed soon.


Every time there’s a big incident like this, all news programs on television will show terrifying uncensored images such as the bloody victims, the building damages, people in panic, etc. straightly from the location. Your child may see all these terrifying images! Not only uncensored news images, your child may also see other television violence. Have you already known what will seeing television violence affect your child?



Until the age of seven years old, your child still can’t differentiate between reality from fantasy because they haven’t had the reasoning ability yet. Everything your child sees is real to her or him. If your
child watches violence or unkind images on television; those images will stick to his or her brain.

Having violence as a part of buried memory in the brain may lead your child growing up insecure because she or he will have a look at the reality in a bad side of mind. Your child will be frightened easily, will be afraid to be alone, and will probably have nightmares.

The early years of your child’s life are the forming times of your child’s sense of safety, belonging and self-confidence. Therefore, as parents you should make your child feel safe and secure during these times so that the forming process will work properly. How safe and secure your child feels in his or her early years will determine how your child will face the real life later.

Please try your best to protect your child from seeing bad things on television. Instead of sitting your child in front of television frequently, why don’t you fulfill your child’s forming times with good things such as books, music, nature, playing and other interactive activities?

rewrite source: www.associatedcontent.com

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Our Anniversary

>> Jul 14, 2009

Dear, husband…

It’s been seven years since you and I promised each other.
We’ve been through many things together, haven’t we?
.from sadness till happiness.
.from arguing till laughing.

.You’ve ever made me angry.
.You’ve ever made me disappointed.
.You’ve ever made me worried.
.You’ve ever made me cry.

.but you always make me laugh with your jokes.
.You always make me smile with your smile.
.You always make me warm with your love.
.You always make me comfort with your care.
.You always make me tough with your support.

.though there are still lots of hard to reach dreams.
.there aren’t yet small hands holding ours.
.there isn’t yet crying baby at home.
.there aren’t yet little feet steps around the house.
.there aren’t yet adorable eyes starring at us.
.it won’t make our love less strong.

.I know I’m not good in arranging beautiful words,
.but from the bottom of my heart, I just want to say,
.Thank you for your love, care and support for all these times.
.I love you, I’ll always do…

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Four Parenting Styles

>> Jul 9, 2009

As I mentioned in my previous post, abusing is one of deviant parenting styles. Don’t do this! Each parent may use their own parenting style, but do you know that what you’ve done is the best to them? Applying the appropriate parenting style becomes crucial because whatever you do to your children will affect in their life in the future.

Some parents still make mistakes in parenting their child. To avoid making mistakes, you should know first what your present parenting style is. If you find that there’s a mistake, you can fix the problem immediately. Baumrind, Maccoby and Martin identified the parenting styles in early child development to four: authoritative, authoritarian, indulgent and neglectful.

Authoritative parenting

This parenting style encourages children to be independent but still places limits and controls on their actions. Authoritative parents allow the child to explore more freely and to make their own decisions based upon their own reasoning.

When punishing a child, the authoritative parents will always explain his or her motive for their punishment. The punishments are measured and consistent in discipline, not harsh or arbitrary. This is the most recommended parenting style by the child parenting experts.

Being raised with the authoritative style, the children will have a higher self esteem and independence because of the democratic nature. Children are often cheerful, self-controlled, self-confidence and achievement–oriented. They will keep friendly relations with peers, cooperate with adults, manage well with stress, do well in school and have a high academic competence.

Authoritarian parenting

Parents who apply this style expect children to comply with their demands and don’t allow for open dialogue between parent and child. Unlike the authoritative parents, authoritarian parents expect much of their child but don’t explain the reasoning for the rules or boundaries. They are unresponsive to children’s needs and are most likely to spank a child as a form of punishment.

Studies show that the children tend to be socially withdrawn, look to others to decide what’s right, lack of social independence, have low self esteem and low self confidence, have weak communication skills, lack of social academic competence, lack of spontaneity and curiosity. They are often unhappy, fearful and anxious about comparing themselves with others.

In the future, some children might also become a rebel by openly defying the parents and often might be estranged from their parents during adulthood. Authoritarian parents actually cause psychic destruction to their children.

Indulgent parenting

This parenting style is also known as permissive, nondirective or lenient parenting. Indulgent parents very involved with their children but place few demands or controls on them. They are very responsive to the child's needs and wishes and will do anything the child requests to do. Indulgent parents do not require their children to regulate themselves or behave appropriately. Some parents find it easier to communicate with their children in this way.

Children will rarely learn respect for others and have difficulty controlling their behavior. They might be domineering, egocentric, noncompliant, impulsive, and have difficulties in peer relations. When in trouble, the child will simply blame someone else even if it was his or her own fault. However, like a child raised in an authoritative parents and unlike a child raised in an authoritarian parents; the children will often continue to have a close and loving relationship with the parents in adulthood.

Neglectful parenting

Neglectful parenting is also called uninvolved, dismissive, or hands-off parenting. The parents are low in warmth and control, low in responsiveness, and do not set limits. Parents are unsupportive of their children, but will still provide basic needs for the child. Neglectful parents are focused on their own needs more than the needs of their own child.

Children often become immature, display contradictory behavior, tend to be socially incompetent, and frequently have low self-esteem. In adolescence, they may show patterns of truancy and delinquency. They often experience depression and social withdrawal, and are more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior and drugs than children of authoritative parents. Some children will grow up feeling hate against their parents and often might be estranged from them into adulthood.

Each parenting style will determine how the child’s life in the future. Since the authoritative style is the best parenting style, as parents, for the shake of your child’s life, you should try and do your best to apply this parenting style in your family.


rewrite source: http://en.wikipedia.org

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Child Abuse : Learn from Michael Jackson’s Story

>> Jul 6, 2009

There is something we can learn from Michael Jackson's story. What happened to Michael Jackson was a tragedy; he was an appropriate example of a victim of child abuse that was done by his own father, Joseph Walter “Joe” Jackson.

Michael Jackson’s childhood abuse was very terrible. For the first time, Michael talked openly about his childhood abuse in a 1993 interview with Oprah Winfrey. He said that during his childhood he often cried from loneliness and would sometimes start to vomit upon seeing his father. In other high profile interview, Living with Michael Jackson (2003), Michael covered his face with his hand and began crying when talking about his childhood abuse.

Michael stated that he was physically and emotionally abused by his father from a young age, enduring incessant rehearsals, whippings and name-calling. However, he also credited his father's strict discipline as playing a large part in his success. In one altercation—later recalled by Marlon Jackson (Michael’s brother)—the father held Michael upside down by one leg and "pummeled him over and over again with his hand, hitting him on his back and buttocks".

Child abuse is the physical and/or psychological/emotional mistreatment of children. An abuser could be a parent or other caregiver that results in harm, potential for harm, or threat of harm to a child. There are four major categories of child abuse: neglect, physical abuse, psychological/emotional abuse, and sexual abuse.

Children with a history of a physical abuse are at risk of developing psychiatric problems, or a disorganized attachment style which is associated with a number of developmental problems, including dissociative symptoms, as well as anxiety, depressive, and acting-out symptoms.

It is claimed that victims of childhood abuse also suffer from different types of physical health problems later in life. Some reportedly suffer from some type of chronic head, abdominal, pelvic, or muscular pain with no identifiable reason.

The effects of child abuse vary, depending on its type. A 2006 study found that childhood emotional and sexual abuse were strongly related to adult depressive symptoms. Exposure to verbal abuse and witnessing of domestic violence had a moderately strong relation, and physical abuse had a moderate one. For depression, experiencing more than two kinds of abuse exerted synergetic stronger symptoms.

Having physical and emotional abuse, Michael Jackson truly suffered those symptoms, didn’t he? It explains the reason why Michael had the ‘eccentric’ behaviors, ‘controversial’ life style, loneliness depression, and health problems.

New research illustrates that there are strong associations between exposure to child abuse in all its forms and higher rates of many chronic conditions. The strongest evidence comes from the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE's) series of studies which show correlations between exposure to abuse or neglect and higher rates in adulthood of chronic conditions, high risk health behaviors and shortened live span.

Child abuse extremely destructs the victim. Having learned from Michael Jackson's story; a deviant parenting style like abusing your own child will lead to the ruin of your child’s life in the future; whatever talented or clever your child is. As parents or parents to be, let’s say together Stop the Child Abuse!”

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Parenting Your Twin Children

>> Jul 3, 2009

Are there twins in your family? Do you have your own twins? Having twin children is enjoyable but also troublesome. You must care two children (or more) in same age simultaneously. You will have very busy caring activities; especially when one or moreover all of them are sick.

Due to the condition whether the babies come from the same or different ovum, there are two types of twin: identical twin (monozygotic twin) and non-identical twin (dizygotik). Being different from non-identical twins; the identical twins tend to have the same behavior such as the same way in how they eat how they talk and may also the similar personalities.

You must remember that though the identical twins have the same genotype, they are truly different persons. Treating two or more twin children as one person is a common mistake that often done by parents. The parents usually give the same treatment to their twins such as choosing the same clothes, books and toys; including the almost similar names.

The parents’ mistakes in parenting twins will cause their children missing their selves as a personal; they usually think and do as one person. This condition is not right for your twin’s psychic development; it will lead to a bigger problem in their future. If someday they must be separated, each twin may have the lack of self confidence.

A children psycholog said that the most suitable parenting to identical twins is to treat them differently. You must recognize each character of your twins and give them different clothes, toys, books, etc. Your twins will grow up as their selves and each of them will be a complete individual.

Not only the parents should have an important role in parenting twins; but the other family member also should give a good stimulus to the twins. Example: always giving them a chance to choose what each twins want and like. Your all family member should teach your twins that although their looks are similar but actually they have their own character and uniqueness.

Read also the related article : How to Overcome Coward Child

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