The Ten Phrases Not to Say to Your Kids (3)

Here are the last three phrases:

8. “Don’t say that.”
Notice this situation: a mother was embarrassed when her daughter once pointed at a frizzy-haired woman at the grocery store and shouted with wide-eyed wonder, “Look at the witch!”

You shouldn’t think that the girl was being rude; she was simply being a kid. Whether the difference is race, ethnicity, orientation, physical abilities, or appearance, these experiences are perfect opportunities to look into kids’ thoughts about diversity, at which point you should share your own.

Don’t shut down the conversation, but rather welcome the open dialogue. As for the inappropriate comments, that is something that you need to discuss with your child, however, do not silence them, as silence taught to a child can breed into an emotional and mental issue later in life.

9. “Let me help you.”
It can be heartbreaking to watch a frustrated child. But sometimes it doesn’t pay to do the superhero rescue. The more challenges children overcome, the prouder they’ll feel, says Dr. Stanley I. Greenspan, author of Great Kids. You are setting your child up for failure when you indulge them and make problems go away instantly. The only way to overcome challenge is to face it head on.

10. “Don’t make me turn this car around!”
There’s not much worse than a car ride with a badly behaved child (or two or three). When you’ve gotten to this point, you’ve already lost control, even from the driver’s seat. If you want to head home, just do it, but don’t give your children the authority to make that decision for you.

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