Keep Your Consistency
>> Jul 22, 2011
Have you ever watched ‘Super Nanny’ television program? I’ve ever watched it several times. In this program, the parents asked for the Nanny help to handle their children who have ‘bad’ behaviors. It turns out that the main cause is always the parents themselves. One of the most mistakes that parents often do is there’s no consistency in parenting their children.
I’m so glad to find this article that written by Dr. Noel Swanson (marriageadvice.com). He said that when it comes to parenting, consistency is so needed: consistency in what you say and do, and consistency between parents. If you don’t apply it, you give full chance to your kids to manipulate you and play one parent off another.
Here are some pointers that will help you to keep the consistency:
Have a Plan
You should have a plan about how to deal with and face particular situations. Having done that, every time you’re in the particular situation, you will stay calmly and do what you had pre-planned. If you have no plan in your mind, you’ll just react, like yelling and threatening; and you’ll respond differently for the same situation.
Have a Plan
You should have a plan about how to deal with and face particular situations. Having done that, every time you’re in the particular situation, you will stay calmly and do what you had pre-planned. If you have no plan in your mind, you’ll just react, like yelling and threatening; and you’ll respond differently for the same situation.
Choose Your Battles
It means that you should choose and decide which important rules or things that you must insist on it, every time.
It means that you should choose and decide which important rules or things that you must insist on it, every time.
A United Parent
In front of children, parents should have the same decision. If your partner has said NO, you must say NO too; then you can discuss it later privately. Otherwise, kids will go to one parent that gives the answers they want.
In front of children, parents should have the same decision. If your partner has said NO, you must say NO too; then you can discuss it later privately. Otherwise, kids will go to one parent that gives the answers they want.
Parents should spend time discussing rules and expectations so that you can come up with a consistent plan. One way to do this is to study a parenting book together and then talk about it. Watching TV programs such as Super Nanny would also be a great idea.
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