A Great Help Comes on the Right Time

I can’t online on the past two days (that’s why I’m updating this blog so late) because my hubby was in his worst condition. For two days I didn’t sleep- it’s so hard for me to see he’s groaning in pain. He felt great pain inside his right leg; from buttock to calf; and it continuously attacked him. I felt so useless; there’s nothing I can do to ease his pain. Drugs from doctors, hot compress, massage; all didn’t work.

We’ve tried several kinds of different therapies; but there isn’t yet that’s successful to ease my hubby’s pain. Tuesday afternoon, his legs became very cold and he started to feel numb; but the pain inside the right leg still occurred. My anxiousness was rising up more and more…

We’re going through that hard and exhausting Tuesday night. On the next early Wednesday morning; I tried to seek more information on a good therapist to my neighbors and relatives. One of my aunts gave me the information and she very recommended the therapist. I didn’t know why; but I felt so sure about it, so, immediately, I called the therapist and invite him to come.

The therapist handled my hubby for almost three hours. Though the therapy looked painful, it truly gave a great result! He’s able to sit, stand and walk again – the things that he can’t do for weeks before! I think it’s very amazing because this great result happened from just only one times therapy. Wow!!

Of course, he isn’t yet completely healthy; but we’re so happy and grateful to God with this big improvement. I was writing this post this afternoon while he’s having the second therapy. The therapist said that my hubby must get therapy three times in a role.

I just want to say: every time we’re in trouble or other bad condition; we have to keep positive thinking and believe that there will be the best solution. Don’t ever loose hope and faith that God will help us. God will help and answer our pray with God’s way… So, in my recently experience, God have sent the best therapist for my hubby to our home. My hubby now can smile and laugh again; it’s so priceless! Thank God, Alhamdulillah.

Buat Sobat yang berdomisili di Bogor dan sekitarnya, yang mungkin sedang mencari informasi tentang Ahli Totok Saraf yang bagus, saya sangat merekomendasikan Beliau yang satu ini. Bayangkan, suami saya yang sudah dua malam tidak tidur karena sangat kesakitan; bisa ditangani dengan tepat dan cepat. Dengan satu kali terapi saja, sudah banyak sekali kemajuan yang dirasakan. Ini yang membuat saya kagum, karena berbeda dengan terapi-terapi lain yang pernah kita coba, sudah berkali-kali terapi, tapi belum kelihatan perkembangannya.

Suami saya sebelumnya menderita saraf terjepit yang lumayan parah; karena kakinya sampai kebas dan sangat dingin; berbaring saja susah, apalagi untuk duduk dan berdiri, sangat menyakitkan! Insya Allah, saya juga berencana untuk ikut terapi totok dengan Beliau, dalam ikhtiar kami untuk mendapatkan momongan. Mudah-mudahan Allah meridhoi; mohon do’a Sobat semua…

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Build Your Child’s Good Moral Character from Home! (4)

I’m so busy on the past few days. My hubby is sick; it’s been two weeks already. It truly makes me sad seeing he can’t do much because the severe pain he felt. He needs help to do almost anything. Moreover, the woman who usually helps me doing the house tasks hasn’t been coming for several days. Well, I’m just trying to do my best here but I also don’t want to push myself too hard. My hubby is my priority; though in pain, I want him feels comfortable…

Ok, let’s back to the post’s blog matter. This post is the last section of how to build your child’s good moral character from home tips. I’ll mention here the last ten tips of 50 for you:

41. If your child has a little conflict with friends; give your child a chance to solve the problem by himself/herself first. Being not interfering since the beginning makes your child learns to identify and seek the solution of the problem.

42. Give each child a separate toy box to avoid the fighting over the toys between your children. Let your children to keep their favorite toys; but you must ask each child to still prepare some toys that can be used together and can be borrowed by others.
43. Tell your child that doing the home work is your child’s task. You will not perform his/her task; but you will be delighted to help if there’s trouble or to examine the finished home work.

44. If there is a baby at home, ask your older child to help you caring the baby. Ask your child to express affection to the baby and calm the baby when the baby’s crying.

45. Write a letter or simple notes to your child. The content can be various things: motivation words, reminder, greetings, etc. Put it on the refrigerator or white board or any place else that you like.

46. Set court chairs. If your children are quarrelling or doing other mistakes; sent them to the court chairs. They must sit on the court chairs until there is one or both of them want to explain what exactly happens, apologize and promise not doing the same mistake.

47. Teach your child how to ease anger. Teach your child how to calm himself / herself by taking a deep breath and exhaling it slowly. You can also teach your child to do something else that can take mind off the anger, therefore, you should prepare a canvas/drawing book to write/draw/score out or a bolster to punch. Other way: you can prepare a quiet room as a special place for your child to calm himself/herself every time he/she feels very angry.

48. Introduce and teach pluralism to your child. Don’t limit and don’t discriminate your child’s friends. You can register your child into a playing group or other activity; so that your child may meet and get along with friends from different religion, race, economic and social backgrounds.

49. Teach generosity to your child. Of course, you don’t want your child is growing up to be a money-oriented person. Take your child regularly to the orphan house and the charity event in your area. You and your child together can prepare the donation in matter of fund, books, toys or clothes. Explain the importance of helping and giving others for life happiness and peaceful heart.

50. Be PATIENT in building your children character; don’t demand too much. It’s not an instant process! Don’t forget, you must also consider the child’s age.

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Saving Money:Teach It to Your Child!

I think all parents want their children to be successful persons in their future, right? The ability to manage finance well is one thing that a person should have to succeed, at least not get into financial problem. Don’t you agree with this also?

I know that this topic isn’t a new thing; but I want to make a post about it just for remembering parents. Children can’t understand the money concept and the importance of saving money by themselves. It’s the parents’ role! If you want your child has knowledge and ability to manage money in the future; as parents, it’s important to build the good financial habits since the early age.

First, you should introduce the money concept. If your child already recognizes numbers, you can begin introducing the coins money by teaching the value of each coin. As we all know, children are good watchers and like to imitate their parents. Before teaching your child how to save money, you can give example by always putting coins in a piggy bank in front of her/him. Explain that you put coins in the piggy bank because you want to use the money later. By asking your child to accompany you shopping in a store; you can also describe the money function as an exchange means.

When your child is old enough and already has an interest to own things that she/he likes, well, it’s the sign that you can start teaching saving money to your child. It’s the right time! When your child wants to have and buy something, tell her/him that she/he can buy it by saving money first. After browsing google, I found some useful tips that you can apply to motivate your child in learning to save money. Here are the practical guidance for you:

• Give an allowance. Example: you give an allowance only $5 a week; but your child wants to buy a story book that costs $10. Let your child to make a decision about how much money she/he wants to save regularly. If your child can read and write already, teach her/him to write down spending and saving.
• Use match savings. Offer a matching contribution for every dollar your child saves. As your child grows up, you can less the match percentage.
• Encourage your child to make a wish list and display the pictures of the wanted items. If your child is saving money for a certain purpose, it can motivate her/him more.
• Give awards. For your child’s effort of saving money, once in a while you may buy your child a gift or take your child out to her/his favorite place.
• Open a saving account. If your child is old enough, encourage her/him to open a saving account in a bank and save part of her/his money on it. You can give the simple explanation about the bank functions and don’t forget to show the progress amount of your child’s bank account.
• Introduce a budget in a simple way. Introduce what a budget is by giving your child a simple explanation that she/he must divide up the money to different posts every month. Teach your child to make her/his own budget; ask your child to divide her/his allowance to three parts: saving, charity and spending.

Not only saving money, you should let your children know how to earn money; they must know that money is earned through work. To your older child, you can make a daily job to do list and encourage your child to finish all tasks. If you’ve already given your child an allowance once a week, tell your child that it’s a weekly salary for finishing the jobs during the week.

You’ve introduced the money concept; but don’t forget to also teach the generosity to your child. Don’t let your child growing up to be a money-oriented person! Take your child to every charity event in your local community and every visit to a local orphanage. You can also give example by giving money to charity regularly or in special moments such as donating money or other things to victims of calamities.

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Build Your Child’s Good Moral Character from Home! (3)

I’ve mentioned 20 of 50 tips on how to build good moral character of your child in my previous posts. Just remembering, moral character building is the big task of parents; and parents can do this by starting it from their own home. Conveniently, I’ll mention the following tips for you:

21. Enrich your child’s vocabularies that express emotional feelings. This way is still related to the introducing your child the various kinds of emotion. You can make a list together with your child. Try to make a list of 50 words such as: happy, love, adore, disappointed, angry, hopeful, worried, hate, etc. Always add the list every time you find new words.

22. Give the compliment every time your child shows good behavior to others. It will motivate your child to always repeat the good behavior.

23. Avoid harsh and impolite words at home by applying the house rule: always use polite words at home.

24. Avoid harsh action at home by applying the house rule: hands and legs are not being used to hurt other family member.

25. Be a secret admirer. Ask your child to observe someone secretly; it could be a family member, a neighbor or someone else that you recognize well. Discuss with your child about the ways that you can do together to please him/her; and then do the kindness to that person! I’ll give you some ideas here: you and your child can arrange the surprise birthday party, send a flowers gift, send a framed poem or a picture or a photo, etc.

26. Tell your child to give priority to truth and honesty.

27. Give the straight guidance to your child how to interact politely with others.
28. Play the changing of roles once in a while. It will teach your child how to be empathy. Give your child a chance to feel how to be someone else. Ex: for 10-15 minutes, let your child act as a mother/father and you act as a child. See what happens…

29. Introduce your child to the virtuous person in your area or read the life story of famous and virtuous people. Your child can learn from it!

30. Teach your child to respect other’s belongings. If your child brings home toys from neighbor, you must explain that it’s not right thing to do. Encourage her/him to return the toys. Your child must understand and respect property right or ownership.

31. Teach your child to care about the house and also environment cleanness. Always giving good example by throwing rubbish at its place. Ask your child to clean the house together at lease once a month or you can delegate the house tasks that your child must do frequently (of course, you must adjust the house task with your child’s age).

32. Keep your promise to your child. Don’t ever make a promise that you can’t fulfill. If you’ve made a promise, but it turns out that you can’t accomplish it; again, don’t be hesitant to ask forgiveness to your child.

33. Teach your child to express his/her opinion. Ask what’s in your child’s mind about something that you face together. Ex: your child see a friend crying on the first day at school; you can discuss this; ask your child to share his/her mind about what makes his/her friend sad.

34. Teach your child the causal rule; so that your child will know exactly the consequences that may happen every time making a mistake. Ex: “If you let your bike in the rain outside, it will be rusty and easily broken”. Explaining it with the causal rule like this will encourage your child to take care of his/her belongings well.

35. Don’t lie to your child. You can explain something in another way and words, but try not to lie. If your child knows that you’re lying, don’t hesitate to admit your mistake and ask your child to forgive you.

36. Teach your child to appreciate the value of money. There are some methods that you can apply such as giving allowance once a week so that your child can learn to manage the money. Let your child to learn about making priority of his/her money. For younger child, you can show an example how to save money by putting money into a piggy bank; do this in front of your child.

37. Don’t ask your child to lie for you. Many parents do this mistake; but actually; it’s similar with teaching your child how to lie. So, parents, avoid doing this!

38. Teach your child to always say “Thank you” every time receiving something from others; even tough your child doesn’t like it.

39. Play the eye contact game with your child. Teach your child to be able to make an eye contact with other person by playing this eye contact game.

40. Give your child a true or false test. You can make a list of simple statements such as sky is blue; brothers can hit one another; knife is sharp; you can throw rubbish to the river, etc. Ask your child to appraise each statement; which is true and false.

I haven’t yet finished with these tips (I hope you aren’t bored); there are still ten tips that I want to share with you…

rewrite source: Nova tabloid and google

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Watch Out for the Danger Signs in Your Marriage!

When we say,” I do” on our wedding day, of course, we’re dreaming of living in a happy marriage life; but sometimes life doesn’t go on as we want it to be, right? We all know that marriage life has its ups and downs; but how if you begin to feel: there’s something wrong, there’s something hurts you or there’s something that makes you uncomfortable, and you don’t know what exactly it is...

A broken marriage may start from a problem that let unsolved for along time. You can’t ignore any problem. No matter what small a problem is, it can be the discomfort source in your relationship. Moreover, it can lead to negative thinking such as a desire to divorce (oh, no!). Knowing from the beginning the danger signs in a marriage will help you a lot. You can anticipate what have hurt you or what have made you uncomfortable. Then, you’ll understand where you should focus into.

Use the list below to see how many are there that actually happens in your marriage life. Though there are only three from the list that match with your real situation, your marriage is in danger and you are in a serious problem if you don’t make any change soon! So please, read these SIGNS carefully:

• Every time you’ve finished your work hours, you feel hard, unenthusiastic, and lazy to come home to see your spouse.


• You feel ‘afraid’ every time your spouse is trying to start a conversation; because you think that something hurts you will happen.


• There’s only a little conversation topics that you can talk with your spouse enjoyably.


• Things of your spouse that you admire before change into something that bother you.


• At present time, you’ve never done things that you used to do it together enjoyably before; in fact, it becomes things that you avoid because it isn’t enjoyable anymore and it may hurt you.


• You feel that your spouse doesn’t love you anymore or even hate you.
• You have a desire to cheat your spouse or to get a divorce.


• When you want to make any important decision that relates on children and finance matter; you assume your spouse almost like your enemy.


• At a party or other gathering event, you criticize or even humiliate your spouse (or vice versa) in public, in front of guests and friends; and you don’t feel guilty having done it.


• Your unhappy marriage life makes you more sarcastic and pessimistic with others who have better marriage life’s condition.


• You are in deep sadness because your marriage isn’t the marriage that you’ve dreamt of. You are so disappointed with your marriage.


• It seems that your hope and your dream in your marriage life may not be realized anymore.
  

Thank God, there’s no danger sign happens in my marriage. How about you? Have you counted? Did you find any danger sign that happens in your marriage? If you experience one or more of the signs, don’t postpone it, you should take it seriously and focus on fixing the problem. By recognizing these danger signs, I hope that your marriage can be maintained.
Rewrite source: Nova tabloid and google

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