Couple’s Corner: Jealousy

This post is this Wednesday’s Couple's Corner. We can learn by sharing and reading other’s experience, right? Happy reading…

Jealousy is one of our differences. I’m not a jealous person, but my hubby can be jealous easily. Thank God, his jealousy isn’t the blind one. I really understand that his jealousy shows how much his affection to me. I’ve never assumed it as a negative thing.
But I became confused when he asked,” Why you’ve never been jealous?” Yeah, why I’ve never been jealous to him? I think it’s only my personality; because I also love and don’t want to loose my hubby. I can feel his strong love; I believe in him 100% that he’ll always keep this trust. I think it’s the answer why I’ve never been yet jealous to him…

I know that he checks my hand phone and my face book account regularly; and it isn’t a problem at all, because I’ve never hidden anything or done ‘stupid’ things behind his back. I know that he also believes me 100%. He said,” I believe in you; I just want to protect you from others that may annoy and tempt you”.

So, actually, until now, I can enjoy his jealousy; even though he forbids me going shopping at the mall by myself. He always says,” I don’t like you’re leaving alone; I’m afraid someone will annoy you there. Let me accompany you”. Because now he’s very busy at the restaurant, I seldom go to the mall; just shopping at nearby little stores or factory outlets.

I realize that the aim of his jealousy is to protect me. Having written this jealousy thing makes me want to hear again the song “Jealousy” (Freddy Mercury –Queen). But the lyrics don’t describe us at all, just like the melody; because I love my hubby’s jealousy, he’s my truly body guard, ha ha ha….

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Poisoned Relationship (3)

It’s the last post of poisoned relationship topic.

Third condition: “I want to rule you”

It’s a message that stated by a person that categorized as a ‘bossy’. Different with the ‘difficult’ person, the ‘bossy’ person used to take over all responsibilities. If this person is in your team work; she/he will ask opinion to every team member; and then suddenly she/he steps forward and admits these opinions as her/his own opinion.

It is unpleasant situation for the victims who have original opinions/ideas. But, this ‘bossy’ person is so clever to manipulate others, so, the victims can’t be protest. This person usually has the ability to influence others; therefore, she/he often becomes a leader.

The ‘bossy’ persons don’t realize that what they do make others stressful. With their charm and cleverness, they continuously pull their manipulated victims to facilitate them in achieving their own wants. They can make others look bad or ‘stupid’; and she/he is the best.

How to face the ‘bossy’ person?

• If she/he involve in the same team work; don’t answer the questions. If the ‘bossy’ is your superior, seek a way to keep your idea safe with you.


• Don’t pay attention if she/he tells about rumor or someone’s badness.


• Speak out your objection straightly. Convince yourself that you’ve done the right thing.


• If your objection doesn’t have enough attention, and her/his behavior burdens you continuously; do the detox. Stop seeing her/him or take a distance. If the bossy person is your parents or your spouse; find a reason to stay away for awhile. You need a rest!
  

Rewrite source: Nirmala magazine and google

The picture is taken from open.salon.com

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Couple's Corner : Kiss and Make Up / Reconcile

It's my first Couple's Corner. In Couple's Corner, we're sharing our stories about things that may happen in a married couple's life. Happy reading...

If many couples have lots of similarities, we don’t. My hubby and I have many differences in habits and characters; and we’ve truly known it. Before we decided to unite in a marriage, we’ve already realized that our differences can become the cause of the misunderstandings in our future relationship.

Therefore, we made commitments to prepare at first our own kiss and make up ways from every miscommunication / conflict / misunderstanding that possibly happen. Here are our ways:

• We have our reconcilement signs. If we’re in the middle of a misunderstanding and one of us is pointing forward the bended little finger, the other isn’t allowed to reject the reconcilement invitation. This funny way can always break the ice; and it becomes a good start to communicate heart by heart.
• Before going to bed every night, we have a habit to

forgive one another to start a brand new day tomorrow. During our seven years marriage life, because of our big differences, we’ve experienced misunderstandings several times; but all are little ones that can be solved in a short time. We’ve never keeping quiet for days; because we must ask for apologize every night! So, this way really works for us…

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Poisoned Relationship (2)

In the first post of this poisoned relationship topic, I’ve mentioned the first condition that can happen in an unhealthy relationship. Today I’ll step forward to the second condition. Remember again the big point: Stop Being a Victim! You must take the right step to get out of a poisoned relationship.

Second condition: “You all must be responsible for my happiness”
 

It’s a message that stated by a person that categorized as a ‘complainer’. Though it doesn’t straightly stated, this negative thinker often blames others; but rejecting to be responsible and do the self-change. They tend to generalize all cases as negative things.

Consorting with the complainer is so tiring; they suck your positive energy! Little problems can become big ones that he/she feels need to be complained. You, who listen to all complaints will feel ought to make this person happy, as the time goes by, every time you hear the complaint, you will feel the increasing burden that you must receive.

The complainer may look weak, but like the intimidator at the first condition, this person has the power to manipulate other’s feeling. They use ‘their weakness’ to force others to do what they want and need.

How to face the complainer? Here is the practical guidance for you:

• If the complainer always annoys you; stop being a victim by ignoring all complaints. Tell the complainer that the problem will be solved if he/she has a will to change.

• Tell the complainer that happiness doesn’t depend on anybody. To be happy or not is her/his own choice.
  
  Even though you feel sorry for him/her, ignore the complainer for awhile. Praise him/her if the complainer has tried to fix the condition by his/her own effort.

Rewrite source:Nirmala magazine and google
The picture is taken from positivesharing.com

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A Perfect Toy Box for Your Whole Family!

Dear, you all, holiday season is coming soon… Are you still looking for a perfect place to find things as gifts for your loved ones? It’s for your loved ones, so, you want to find something unique, innovative and special, right? Unique things will become impressive gifts; and your loved ones that receive it will feel so special. It’s a sweet way to show your affection, right?

Unique and innovative things surely are in a unique place, too. I invite you to visit the unique place: Lou Lou’s Corner! Located in Hickory, North Carolina, the store will amaze you with their outstanding things that designed for your whole family. Do you live across the country? Don’t worry; you still can have fun shopping online experience with Lou Lou’s Corner. They have the perfect gifts for everyone, so, you’ll find what you are looking for: toys, gadgets, clothing, gifts and many favorite brands that you’ll love. My three favorite brands of Lou Lou’s Corner are jellycat, barefoot dreams and appaman.

Your younger child will love adorable and fun soft toys of Jellycat collection! I myself love their Barefoot Dreams Cozychic Collection; they give you soft and cozy feeling when you’re wearing it. And your children will look cute with cool and fun Appaman T-shirts.
One more thing, they also offer gift wrapping service and signature gift service for their customers. Well, there’s no doubt again, with the help of Lou Lou’s Corner, your gifts will be the perfect ones! Lou Lou’s Corner is surely a perfect toy box for your whole family.

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Saving Money on Buying Baby Diapers and Training Pants

Having a baby is the most wonderful gift from God; but it can take lots of money to care a baby. New born baby basic needs including these three kinds: clothing and layette, diapers and bath items, bedding and feeding needs.

For parents, baby diapers and training pants are large expenses; and the cost can still increase continuously. Before the baby has ready for potty training, most parents use disposable diapers. Disposable diapers are probably the easiest diapering method; that’s why it’s most popular parents’ choice. There is no washing or storing of used diapers and they are available in many stores.

Like mentioned before, the problem in using disposable diapers are its high cost. Assuming that the average baby will use 8 disposable diapers per day for around 2.5 years, that's more than 7,000 disposable diapers used before your baby potty trains. Wow, imagine how much the total cost!

Don’t worry parents; I have a proper solution here. It’s the smart buying that you can do: buy baby diapers and training pants online at Sam’s Club! You can get it at far less prices; and moreover, you can save lots of money by buying it in bulk. They provide the top brands of disposable diapers and training pants like Huggies and Pampers in a wide range of sizes and styles. They also deliver it to your home directly. Buying baby and infant needs at Sam’s Club will give you lots of benefit!

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Dunstan Baby Language : does It Work for Your Baby?

Until now I’m still curious with Dunstan Baby Language. There’s a controversy over it, so, I want to prove it with my own baby. But since I still haven’t one, I just keep my curiosity. I knew Dunstan Baby Language for the first time in Oprah Winfrey Show several years ago; at that time Priscilla Dunstan stated her hypothesis. I remembered that she made a demonstration to some babies; and her system seemed working successfully. Everyone there were astonished, including Oprah (and me).

Dunstan Baby Language products were sold well at that time. But then, it turned out that there were many complaints refered to Dunstan system. Many parents mentioned that Dunstan Baby Language didn’t work to their babies. Why was it still called hypothesis? Because Dunstan Baby Language hasn’t been scientifically validated (until now?).

For you that has forgotten with or still hasn’t yet known this Dunstan hypothesis, I’ll mention here a brief of it that I quote from wikipedia.

Dunstan's claims
Between 0-3 months, infants make what Dunstan calls sound reflexes. According to Dunstan, the five universal words (or sound reflexes) used by infants are:

1. Neh
I'm hungry - An infant uses the sound reflex "Neh" to communicate its hunger. The sound is produced when the sucking reflex is triggered, and the tongue is pushed up on the roof of the mouth.

2. Owh
I'm sleepy - An infant uses the sound reflex "Owh" to communicate that they are tired. The sound is produced much like an audible yawn.

3. Heh
I'm experiencing discomfort - An infant uses the sound reflex "Heh" to communicate stress, discomfort, or perhaps that it needs a fresh diaper. The sound is produced by a response to a skin reflex, such as feeling sweat or itchiness in the bum.

4. Eairh
I have lower gas - An infant uses the sound reflex "Eairh" to communicate they have flatulence or an upset stomach. The sound is produced when trapped air from a belch that is unable to release and travels to the stomach where the muscles of the intestine tighten to force the air bubble out. Often, this sound will indicate that a bowel movement is in progress, and the infant will bend its knees, bringing the legs toward the torso. This leg movement assists in the ongoing process.

5. Eh
I have gas - An infant uses the sound reflex "Eh" to communicate that it needs to be burped. The sound is produced when a large bubble of trapped air is caught in the chest, and the reflex is trying to release this out of the mouth.

It’s a natural way for every baby to express their physical needs. These are the baby’s first communications, which occur before actual crying develops. Ex : the sooner the ‘word’ for hunger is identified, the sooner a parent can respond by feeding. It’s resulting in less crying and less discomfort for the baby and the parents…

If you’re still interested, I share the download link of Dunstan Baby Language DVD.
The Dunstan System will teach you how to tune your ear to the 5 ‘words’. You will also view Priscilla Dunstan in a ‘live lesson’. 


To everyone that has ever experienced with Dunstan System; I hope you can help me to answer my question, “Does Dunstan Baby Language Work for Your Baby?”

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