A Happy Family

Couple’s Corner : He Made Me Really Angry

>> Jan 13, 2010

I’m afraid I can’t share much story here, so, this post is a short one. During our more than seven years marriage life, we have experienced lots of misunderstandings, but he has never made me really angry.

I hope it won’t happen, but things that can make me really angry is if he’s cheating on me, he’s lying to me or seeing other woman behind my back. My hubby has already realized this well, because I’ve ever told him about any matter that can make me really mad.

I often feel irritated with his bad habits, but, thank God, he has never done anything that made me furious. I hope we can keep this happy marriage in many years to come…

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Camera Critters: a Colorful Caterpillar

This is my first time joining Camera Critters. This meme is all about photos of animals/critters. I found this caterpillar on my front yard. Actually I'm afraid of caterpillar, but seeing its beautiful colors, I push myself to take the picture.

I think I've seldom seen a caterpillar with beautiful colors like this...If you want to see other photos, click the badge above.

Funny Sleeping Behaviors

>> Jan 9, 2010

We all know that baby and younger children (under 5 years old) need qualified sleep for their maximal brain growing. The amount of sleeping child hours is adapted by its age level. Newborn baby usually sleeps 16-20 hours per day, 2-12 months aged baby needs to sleep 9-12 hours in the night with 1-4 times having a nap. While 12 months-3 years aged child usually sleeps 12-13 hours per day with only once having a nap. If the child has been above 4 years old, she/he doesn’t need to take a nap again.

Well, are their qualified sleeping needs becoming the answers of these funny sleeping behaviors?

Sources: www.thosefunnypictures.com & cool-and-funny-pictures.blogspot.com

Ezy Roller : Your Active Child will Love it!

I found this site and I love to share it with you. This cool site offers unique and personalized gifts for your whole family. I think everyone always loves being given a unique and personalized gift; because it shows your affection and special attention.

This site actually offers lots of things; but I’ll share here my three favorites. Have you ever heard about Ezy Roller before? If your child is an active child who likes outdoor activities, I am so sure that he/she will love this Ezy Roller!

You might ask, what is Ezy Roller? Ezy Roller is a chart without pedals, a chain or batteries, and it has three wheels. Ezy Roller glides forward by moving your feet. If your child’s age is between 3-14 years old, Ezy Roller could be a perfect toy for her/him. It’s different with rollerblades; Ezy Roller has a handbrake built in and the top speed is about 12 mph. You should not be worried about the product safety; Ezy Roller is a product with high quality design. There is also Ezy Roller Junior, which is suitable for younger children (aged 2-4). It glides forward by moving left and right hands. This fun chart will help your child to develop his/her strong hands and feet, right?

Well, let me move to my other two favorites: personalized pillowcases and nap mats. You will amaze with their collection; so cute, qualified and colorful! All these bright and fun pillows are available in 100% chenille fabrics. One more thing that I most like is, you can personalize your pillows (and also your nap mat) with large bright embroidery. It sounds good, does it? I am pretty sure that you will have a nice sleep with these pillows…

Their nap mats are perfect for your younger child and toddlers. It has several product excellences. The nap mat is attached with a soft fleece blanket and it also has a removable foam pillow. Your child will feel comfortable using this. Moreover, it’s easy for you to clean it; you can just wash it with your washing machine.

In this post I’ve shared my three favorite products, now I invite you to visit Posylane to check all of them by yourselves…

Couple’s Corner: Most Irritating/Annoying Habits for Both

>> Jan 8, 2010

In my opinion, this week’s topic of Couple’s Corner is a funny one. If you have chosen one man as your partner in a marriage bond, you should be able to accept all his annoying habits. The funny part is, no matter how angry you are because of it, you still love your husband…

As a couple, we aren’t perfect. Well, no body’s perfect, right? I’m not perfect, neither does my hubby. Each of us has annoying habits; but I don’t want to mention my bad habits here, hehehe. In this post, I’ll mention some of his habits that irritate me much, but as I said before, it won’t decrease my love to my hubby…

I really hate his smoking habit! You might ask why I got married with a smoker then. What I can say, love isn’t a logical thing, right? Until now, he still can’t stop this habit, but while he’s smoking, I don’t want nearing him.
Having taken a bath, he always put his wet towel on the bed.
Having cooked in a kitchen, he always left a kitchen in a mess and let me do the cleaning by myself.
He annoys me often with his silly acts. When I’m in a bath room, he likes to put off the light. When we’re watching a scary movie, he likes to make me surprise with dropping something to floor. When I’m writing an article for my blogs, he likes to annoy me with asking many silly questions, etc.

He actually has other annoying habits, but I’m afraid this post will be too long, hehehe. If you want to read other’s funny annoying habits, visit the site by clicking the CC badge above.

Should Parents Compromise with Their Chidren? (2)

>> Jan 5, 2010

Dear you all, recently I’ve got technical problem. My computer is still malfunction, and now still being serviced. It may take several days to settle the problem. To my visitors, I’m so sorry if I haven’t yet visited you again…

Now back to this post. It’s the last post of compromise topic. What’s the difference between compromise and surrender? Compromise is very different from surrender. Compromise doesn't mean any old concession on your child's part will do.

It is your responsibility as parents to set up proper parameters of compromise and to hold your child to those parameters. If after offering the above compromise your child throws a tantrum, and you then agree to do your shopping in the afternoon but in return your child has to clean his/her room, you have surrendered.

When you first try to reach a compromise with your child, you must very clearly from the start identify those areas which are nonnegotiable. If there is room for compromise on an issue; it usually develops when both your child's separate and common interests and yours are discussed.

If you don't ask why your child want something to happen differently, or explain to her/him why you think something should happen in a particular way, it will be difficult to achieve a win–win compromise.

How to say a proper compromise to your child? The language you use is important, here is the guidance:

You shouldn't say, "if you do this I will do that". This is manipulative and will probably come back to bite you one day as you are teaching your child the tactics of manipulation.
However, if you say something like "if we do it this way, we can both get what we want". This teaches your child that there may be a solution in the middle that everyone can live with.

How about the limit? Yes, there is a limit. Too much compromise can also teach your child to manipulate. Your arguments need to be relevant. If you try to justify your demands with layers of argument, you are just teaching her/him to try reason after reason.

While it is important for your child to learn to reason and present a good case for what he/she wants, it is also important for your child to understand when no means no. It remains your responsibility to teach her/him how to cope successfully with the disappointment of not getting her/his own way and understanding that she/he will not always be able to control all of the events in her/his lives.

Rewrite source: brainy-child.com and google

Couple’s Corner : Can You Read My Mind?

>> Jan 2, 2010

Do couples have the ability to read each other mind? I don’t know for sure about this before. Because of my curiosity, I browsed to find more information.

Daniel Siegel, a psychiatrist from UCLA, assumed that a mind reading ability as an ability to make a perception of other’s mind by interpreting the given clues (consciously or not). He named it mindsight, or an ability of brain to make a map of other’s mental condition. William Ickes from University of Texas gave the other concept; he mentioned it as Empathic Accuracy, an ability to feel precisely what other feels.

Every one actually has this ability, include children. It isn’t easy to read other’s mind. The accuracy rate of mind reading between best friends or couples is about only 35%, but they said that the ability can be trained more.

How is the process of mind reading? There are two approaches that complement each other: the help of our five senses and human ability to catch the emotional frequency of a person nearby.

Though the studies said that the accuracy rate of mind reading between couples is only about 35 %, I realize that I truly experienced it. As a couple, of course, we have a close relationship and a strong emotional bond. Having known well my hubby’s characters, personalities and preferences, when we face any situation, I sometimes can guess correctly what his reaction will be, what he’s thinking about and what he’s going to say. It happens vice versa.

But still he can’t read my mind and I also can’t read his completely. That’s why misunderstandings still happen in our relationship. That’s why we apply open communication. If we can read mind one another accurately, we can seldom talk, hehehe…

But I believe that the same frequency of our emotion (or whatever else) connects us. This situation happens to us often: He’s outside (at his workplace or other place), and suddenly I’m thinking about him. Commonly, a few minute later, he calls me and says, “Hay, what’s up? I suddenly remember you…”

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