Begging Face
>> Mar 19, 2011
A cat was nearing us while we’re eating at a restaurant. A hungry cat, I guess. Then the cat ate what we ate. After a while, she/he left us. I think the cat was already full. This cat has beautiful eyes, right?Japanese t shirts
A cat was nearing us while we’re eating at a restaurant. A hungry cat, I guess. Then the cat ate what we ate. After a while, she/he left us. I think the cat was already full. This cat has beautiful eyes, right?
CC: I Cried a River
>> Mar 17, 2011
I share the continuing of my last week story: When I thought It was Over. After my father got very angry with us, I remembered that at night, I can’t sleep at all and cried a river for hours. My head and heart was full of negative emotions and minds. It was one sad night at September, 2001.
To answer Liz question, I can say here that we weren’t young couple; both of us were 29 years old. It’s not our age that made my father angry.
I was feeling so sad and hopeless. I missed my mother so much; as she had passed away two years before (in 1999). I knew that my late mother blessed our relationship since she met Rofi in his dream and she gave her blessing to us. After my mother died, there were only two of us at home, me and my father. I promised to myself to always accompany my father. I thought Rofi was the right man for me as he was willing to live with me and my father at the same house.
That’s why I felt so disappointed with my father. Not only disappointed, but also shocked. I didn’t want to confront with my father straightly but I still wanted to state my disagreement with him. I still did the home chores and served food for my father as usual; but I avoid communicating with him. It happened for about three months. Can you imagine how quiet the house was? There were only two of us at home, but we didn’t talk each other. I was in my protest!
For those three months, I still met Rofi once in a while; but we always met outside. He always convinced me that we had a strong love. All we had to do was more patient. I’ll continue this story next week; you’ll know how my father can finally accept our relationship.
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To answer Liz question, I can say here that we weren’t young couple; both of us were 29 years old. It’s not our age that made my father angry.
I was feeling so sad and hopeless. I missed my mother so much; as she had passed away two years before (in 1999). I knew that my late mother blessed our relationship since she met Rofi in his dream and she gave her blessing to us. After my mother died, there were only two of us at home, me and my father. I promised to myself to always accompany my father. I thought Rofi was the right man for me as he was willing to live with me and my father at the same house.
That’s why I felt so disappointed with my father. Not only disappointed, but also shocked. I didn’t want to confront with my father straightly but I still wanted to state my disagreement with him. I still did the home chores and served food for my father as usual; but I avoid communicating with him. It happened for about three months. Can you imagine how quiet the house was? There were only two of us at home, but we didn’t talk each other. I was in my protest!
For those three months, I still met Rofi once in a while; but we always met outside. He always convinced me that we had a strong love. All we had to do was more patient. I’ll continue this story next week; you’ll know how my father can finally accept our relationship.
Water Features at Atta’awun Mosque
>> Mar 16, 2011
Atta’awun is a famous mosque in Puncak area (Cisarua, West Java, Indonesia). The mosque is famous for its unique architecture and beautiful natural view. Around the mosque, there are water features that I share here. At the entrance there is a pool of water as a symbol of self cleaning before entering the mosque. Interior of the mosque seems so majestic. Right next to the mosque there is a river that flows from the springs of Gunung Mas tea plantation. This river water was very cool.
Its courtyard and parking lot have become favorite rest area, since from the spot, you can enjoy the cool air and views of tea gardens. At the mosque parking area, lots of food stalls offer roasted corn snacks, hot ‘sekoteng’ drink, and meatballs. Those are kinds of food and drink that suit in cold weather.
My entry for
Homemaking Jobs
>> Mar 14, 2011
This time I want to share a comic by Lynn Johnston; about Liz and John family. I realize that until now, there are still a few husbands out there that can't see homemaking jobs as valuable works since it has no economical value. Wives do it with love, free of charge, without being paid.
Homemaking is a mainly American term for the management of a home, otherwise known as housework, housekeeping or household management.
This domestic consumption work creates goods and services within a household, such as meals, childcare, household repairs, or the manufacture of clothes and gifts. Common tasks include cleaning, cooking, and looking after children. A person in charge of the homemaking, who isn't employed outside the home, is in the U.S. and Canada often called a homemaker, a gender-neutral term for a housewife or a househusband.
Housekeeping
Housekeeping by the homemaker is the care and control of property, ensuring its maintenance and proper use and appearance. Housework is work done by the act of housekeeping. Some housekeeping is housecleaning and some housekeeping is home chores. Home chores are housework that needs to be done at regular intervals.
Housekeeping includes the budget and control of expenditures, preparing meals and buying food, paying the heat bill, and cleaning the house. Outdoor housecleaning chores include removing leaves from rain gutters, washing windows, sweeping doormats, cleaning the pool, putting away lawn furniture, and taking out the trash.
Home and Lawn Maintenance
Home maintenance involves the diagnosis and resolution of problems in a home, and is related to home maintenance to avoid such problems. Many types of maintenance are "Do It Yourself" (DIY) projects. Maintenance is not necessarily the same as home improvement, although many improvements can result from repairs or maintenance.
Homemakers that have a lawn responsibility adhere to seasonal lawn care practices, which vary to some extent depending on the climate zone and type of grass that is grown (whether cool season or warm season varieties).
Household Management
Household management by the homemaker is the act of control the organizational, financial, and day-to-day operations of a house. It differs from housekeeping, which consists of the physical maintenance and cleaning of a house.
Household Purchasing
Household purchasing refers to homemaker's effort to get goods or services to finish the goals of the household. Though there are several households that attempt to set standards in the purchasing process, processes can vary greatly between households. Home makers decide the market goods that the household will buy, such as the groceries which have been bough at a grocer's.
So, husbands, please don’t underestimate homemaking jobs, especially if your wife –the homemaker- is a housewife or stay at home wife. Don’t say something like “I’m tired; I’ve worked all day!” It will hurt your wife’s heart!
For your information, some feminists as well as certain non-feminist economists mention that the monetary contribution of housewives' work to society is still ignored in standard formulations of economic output, such as GDP or employment figures.
I’m a housewife. Thanks to the internet, now I can participate in adding fund to our household income.
Embden Goose
>> Mar 12, 2011
While I took their pictures on a muddy field, the geese were coming out from the field and walking toward me. Awww, straightly I thought they were annoyed and wanted to chase me! But since they were walking slowly, I still had a chance taking pictures while walking backward (just in case if I must run!). Soon I found out that they weren’t chasing me, they just want to move onto another part of the field. What a relief :)
The Embden Goose is a breed of domestic goose. The origins of this breed are thought to be from region North Sea, in Holland and Germany. These geese are pure white with a short, light orange bill, and orange feet and shanks.
The legs are rather short. The head is oval-shaped and they have a long and graceful neck. The eyes are an ocean blue. The body is bulky and well rounded, having a long back and a short tail. The wings are very strong and of a good length. The feathers are close and very hard. The breed’s habits are to search for tidbits in the grass and water. The adult bird will commence laying eggs fairly early in the year, in February as a rule, laying 30 to 40 eggs.
Source:wikipedia
The Embden Goose is a breed of domestic goose. The origins of this breed are thought to be from region North Sea, in Holland and Germany. These geese are pure white with a short, light orange bill, and orange feet and shanks.
The legs are rather short. The head is oval-shaped and they have a long and graceful neck. The eyes are an ocean blue. The body is bulky and well rounded, having a long back and a short tail. The wings are very strong and of a good length. The feathers are close and very hard. The breed’s habits are to search for tidbits in the grass and water. The adult bird will commence laying eggs fairly early in the year, in February as a rule, laying 30 to 40 eggs.
Source:wikipedia
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Why Should You and Shouldn’t Spy On Your Children – Pros and Cons of Spying Your Siblings
>> Mar 11, 2011
From the beginning of their life, children now a day are being exposed to earthly sins. Parents can’t do anything but to be strict on their siblings, because they think that this is the only way to protect their kids from the harsh environments and even from themselves. They’re pushed to set some limitation that may attack their own children’s private lives.
Beyond those caring and monitoring stuffs, I’m just thinking. Do the parents also know that they have their own set of limitations too? Did they think about the possible consequences of their action? I’m not saying that monitoring them is wrong, but it must have concrete reasoning on why to do such an action.
Reasons on why should parents spy on their children.It’s a parent’s responsibility to love, support, care, and protect their children. And the main reason why parents are forced to spy on their children is the responsibility to protect them. Checking their phones, monitoring the internet sites that they’re visiting, tracking them via GPS device, and even monitoring their daily school activities, these are some of the hundred methods that parents might be using on protecting their kids. We can’t blame them for doing those actions that can be considered as spying, because children are on a ruthless world of crimes and addictions. They are just being protective to their siblings. And they have reasons to do so, such as.
Low – grades from school
This is the first possible evidence that you’re children are doing something fishy beyond the school bushes. Their low – grades doesn’t always mean that they have a low IQ. There’s the possibility of distraction. There are the illegal gambling, drug addiction, immature drinking, and other bad influences that can push your teens to cut classes and to absent without your consent. This is one of the primary reasons why parents are drive to spy on their kids.
Secretly Behavior
Knowing that teens are good pretenders, parents are having a hard time to observe if there’s something wrong with their kids or their hiding something from them. But once you talk to them seriously, as if you know something, they will show some signs that there’s something going on. Be attentive to their actions. Teens that are hiding something tend to be more stressed and stiff, another reason why parents are insisting to talk to them and investigate.
Mood Change
Adolescents are more accurate that adults in case of mood. They are more stable and satisfy. But if you notice some extreme changes with their usual moods, be suspicious, try to talk to them even though you know that it is almost impossible for them to tell it to you. Adolescents are more open to their friends rather than to their family.
Excessive hunger for money
They may ask you for money more frequent than usual but you’re not aware on how they spend that amount. This is another sign that your children are being amused to something. If it’s for dresses, gaming console, and other “teen must have” items, it’s fine. But if you can’t see any receipt from a department store or even a super market, now there’s a reason for you to be aware. There’s always a possibility of buying an illegal product. I’m not talking about pirated DVDs and Blue Ray CDs, I’m talking about drugs.
Reasons on why you shouldn’t be spying of them
Yes, we all know about the fact that parents have the privilege to monitor their children. They don’t want their children to get hurt, to commit mistakes, to suffer from those mistakes, and even to get low – grades. Those are parts of parenting. But there’s the downside of those part. Some parents don’t notice that they’re now breaking through the boundary of caring and intrusion. These are some of the downfalls of spying your siblings:
Looks like you don’t trust them
Spying your children without their knowledge is a massive attack to their ego. They will think that you don’t trust them. Trust is the most important spice of a relationship except for love. And with your children knowing that you don’t trust may serve as the spark of a rebellion for them that can cause a much bigger problem.
It will seems that you’re pushing them to be perfect
Protecting your children from committing mistakes will not entirely benefit you children. If you are so aware in avoiding them to commit mistakes, it will just build a concept in their minds that you’re pushing them too hard to be perfect. We all know that nobody is perfect. And mistakes are part of growing up.
They won’t know the word “Responsibility”
By spying on them and over protecting them, you’re just teaching them to be dependent and irresponsible. Without giving them enough privacy, they won’t build responsibility and sense of independence within them. Privacy is very essential to their growing process. Spying them will melt their own privacy. And eventually melt their future too.
Spy Gadgets are one of the best tools to monitor and guard your children’s security. But there are also the most dangerous tools to invade their private lives too. As parents, know your limitations. Don’t cross the line. If there’s no problem with them, give them the privacy that they deserve as a symbol of their good work.
Jay Dawber is a writer and a single parent for his three siblings. He is a full time office worker and a part time blog writer about parenting. But besides of his busy schedule, he is searching for a way to supervise his children’s daily activity. And for years of failing, he found a very easy method, and that is to spy on their phone. And he likes to share it to all parents out there.
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Beyond those caring and monitoring stuffs, I’m just thinking. Do the parents also know that they have their own set of limitations too? Did they think about the possible consequences of their action? I’m not saying that monitoring them is wrong, but it must have concrete reasoning on why to do such an action.
Reasons on why should parents spy on their children.It’s a parent’s responsibility to love, support, care, and protect their children. And the main reason why parents are forced to spy on their children is the responsibility to protect them. Checking their phones, monitoring the internet sites that they’re visiting, tracking them via GPS device, and even monitoring their daily school activities, these are some of the hundred methods that parents might be using on protecting their kids. We can’t blame them for doing those actions that can be considered as spying, because children are on a ruthless world of crimes and addictions. They are just being protective to their siblings. And they have reasons to do so, such as.
Low – grades from school
This is the first possible evidence that you’re children are doing something fishy beyond the school bushes. Their low – grades doesn’t always mean that they have a low IQ. There’s the possibility of distraction. There are the illegal gambling, drug addiction, immature drinking, and other bad influences that can push your teens to cut classes and to absent without your consent. This is one of the primary reasons why parents are drive to spy on their kids.
Secretly Behavior
Knowing that teens are good pretenders, parents are having a hard time to observe if there’s something wrong with their kids or their hiding something from them. But once you talk to them seriously, as if you know something, they will show some signs that there’s something going on. Be attentive to their actions. Teens that are hiding something tend to be more stressed and stiff, another reason why parents are insisting to talk to them and investigate.
Mood Change
Adolescents are more accurate that adults in case of mood. They are more stable and satisfy. But if you notice some extreme changes with their usual moods, be suspicious, try to talk to them even though you know that it is almost impossible for them to tell it to you. Adolescents are more open to their friends rather than to their family.
Excessive hunger for money
They may ask you for money more frequent than usual but you’re not aware on how they spend that amount. This is another sign that your children are being amused to something. If it’s for dresses, gaming console, and other “teen must have” items, it’s fine. But if you can’t see any receipt from a department store or even a super market, now there’s a reason for you to be aware. There’s always a possibility of buying an illegal product. I’m not talking about pirated DVDs and Blue Ray CDs, I’m talking about drugs.
Reasons on why you shouldn’t be spying of them
Yes, we all know about the fact that parents have the privilege to monitor their children. They don’t want their children to get hurt, to commit mistakes, to suffer from those mistakes, and even to get low – grades. Those are parts of parenting. But there’s the downside of those part. Some parents don’t notice that they’re now breaking through the boundary of caring and intrusion. These are some of the downfalls of spying your siblings:
Looks like you don’t trust them
Spying your children without their knowledge is a massive attack to their ego. They will think that you don’t trust them. Trust is the most important spice of a relationship except for love. And with your children knowing that you don’t trust may serve as the spark of a rebellion for them that can cause a much bigger problem.
It will seems that you’re pushing them to be perfect
Protecting your children from committing mistakes will not entirely benefit you children. If you are so aware in avoiding them to commit mistakes, it will just build a concept in their minds that you’re pushing them too hard to be perfect. We all know that nobody is perfect. And mistakes are part of growing up.
They won’t know the word “Responsibility”
By spying on them and over protecting them, you’re just teaching them to be dependent and irresponsible. Without giving them enough privacy, they won’t build responsibility and sense of independence within them. Privacy is very essential to their growing process. Spying them will melt their own privacy. And eventually melt their future too.
Spy Gadgets are one of the best tools to monitor and guard your children’s security. But there are also the most dangerous tools to invade their private lives too. As parents, know your limitations. Don’t cross the line. If there’s no problem with them, give them the privacy that they deserve as a symbol of their good work.
Jay Dawber is a writer and a single parent for his three siblings. He is a full time office worker and a part time blog writer about parenting. But besides of his busy schedule, he is searching for a way to supervise his children’s daily activity. And for years of failing, he found a very easy method, and that is to spy on their phone. And he likes to share it to all parents out there.
CC: When I thought It was Over
>> Mar 10, 2011
When we’re still boy friend and girl friend, I’ve ever had this feeling. I thought that this relationship would be over. I forget the exact day, but it’s the time when we (I and Rofi) talked to my father that we’re serious with our relationship and we wanted to unite in a marriage bond.
Do you know what happened later after my father heard his statement? My father became so angry! Very angry. Lots of words with high tones must we accepted that night. I’ve never guessed before that my father would react like that.
I felt so hopeless. I’m a kind of daughter that doesn’t dare to disagree with my father’s wish. After that moment, I asked Rofi what we should do. He calmed me by saying that his feeling for me wouldn’t change. He told me that we must be more patient and waited for better condition. He said that he won’t come to my house for a while. I agreed with him. I didn’t want to make my father more upset. I remembered that I cried like a river that night.
Well, I’ve shared this sad moment. What about your story?
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Do you know what happened later after my father heard his statement? My father became so angry! Very angry. Lots of words with high tones must we accepted that night. I’ve never guessed before that my father would react like that.
I felt so hopeless. I’m a kind of daughter that doesn’t dare to disagree with my father’s wish. After that moment, I asked Rofi what we should do. He calmed me by saying that his feeling for me wouldn’t change. He told me that we must be more patient and waited for better condition. He said that he won’t come to my house for a while. I agreed with him. I didn’t want to make my father more upset. I remembered that I cried like a river that night.
Well, I’ve shared this sad moment. What about your story?
