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To be Good Parents Guidance

>> Mar 1, 2010

Now is parents’ turn. Good parents don’t just happen immediately, right? Parents should grow and apply lessons that they have learned. Continually trying to improve themselves and their parenting skills are important things to do. Author and Pediatrician Marianne Neifert shares the seven things that will help you understand what makes a goods parent. Here they are:

Provide unconditional love and encouragement to your child.
Saying I love you, is important. But even more important is showing your child that you love them by giving your time and attention. Playing games, reading stories, and talking all show your love. Encouragement is also essential. Every child needs to feel like their parents are their best cheerleader. And with their parents help they can accomplish anything.

Make your children a high priority.
This doesn’t mean that you don’t take care of yourself and your marriage. But it does mean that your children should come before others. This may mean that you
need to say ‘no’ sometimes.

Strengthen your team as parents.
Strengthening your team applies to parents. It means that parents agree beforehand on important issues like rules and discipline. They discuss together important decisions that need to be made concerning the children and family.

Discipline consistently.
To cultivate this quality of being a good parent is one of the hardest things to do. At the end of a hard day it is so easy to give in to a child that is crying or whining, but that is not consistent. It does not teach them and only makes your job as a parent more difficult. Set limits and rules and always enforce them.

Teach responsibility.
Give your children responsibilities. You can ask your child to keep clean and tidy his/her own bed room. Or any other responsibilities such as emptying the small garbage cans every week, helping clean up the house, clearing their dishes off of the table, etc. Children need to understand that they are responsible for their own actions and the consequences that follow.

Create togetherness through routines.
Daily, weekly, or even yearly family rituals create a bond between family members. It may be as simple as reading a book together every night or taking a yearly trip to the beach. Dr. Neifert says rituals provide the "social glue that bonds one generation to another, creating many of the special anchor memories within a family".

Take time to recharge.
Parents need to take some time for themselves. When you are running on empty you are not doing your children any good. Lack of sleep, isolation and self-neglect can leave parents feeling physically exhausted, emotionally depressed and useless. Husbands and
wives can spend time together every evening after putting children in bed. You can have a date night every Saturday night, though it usually consists of watching a movie or playing games at home.

After knowing the seven steps to be a good parent, you can begin to apply it actually. Take it one step at a time...

Source: thecutekid.com/Teresa and google
Picture source: supaswap.com

12 komentar:

harto March 1, 2010 at 8:15 PM  

wah mantab niih tips-tipsnya.

Rasulullah Saw ditanya tentang peranan kedua orang tua. Beliau lalu menjawab, “Mereka adalah (yang menyebabkan) surgamu atau nerakamu.” (HR. Ibnu Majah)
Kalau berbakti masuk surga dan kalau bersikap durhaka kepada mereka masuk neraka.

Barangsiapa mempunyai dua anak perempuan dan diasuh dengan baik maka mereka akan menyebabkannya masuk surga. (HR. Bukhari)

Cintailah anak-anak dan kasih sayangi lah mereka. Bila menjanjikan sesuatu kepada mereka tepatilah. Sesungguhnya yang mereka ketahui hanya kamulah yang memberi mereka rezeki. (HR. Ath-Thahawi).

kimmy March 1, 2010 at 8:27 PM  

well, no matter how difficult it is, no matter how great the responsibility..being a parent is a real blessing, right? God bless!

Bisnis Simpel di Internet March 1, 2010 at 8:41 PM  

Parents should give equal love to all her children so life so serene and peaceful.

Anonymous March 2, 2010 at 7:26 AM  

Setuju Bu Lina
Orang tua harus memiliki waktu yang cukup untuk anak2nya dan harus bisa mengajarkan arti disiplin, tanggung jawab, dan mandiri dalam bersikap. Orang tua juga harus bisa mengawasi perkembangan spritual amak2nya, sehingga tidak mudah terpengaruh oleh lingkungannya.

Lina Marliana March 2, 2010 at 5:45 PM  

Kalau aku selalu saling backup Lin.. Kebersamaan juga harus selalu dijaga.. Jadi anak2ku dekat bukan hanya pada mama atau papanya aja.. tp kedua2nya..

Maaf, buru2 nih.. lg diwarnet (nyempeti pas pulang kerja.. kompieku masih rusak nih, dan Kei juga barusan sembuh dr cacar)

Willyo Alsyah P. Isman March 3, 2010 at 1:20 AM  

lihat kebahagiaan dlm foto itu ... aku kok jadi iri ya

medic / scribbler March 3, 2010 at 8:41 AM  

Great parenting tips!

Thanks for sharing.. :)

Party decorations March 3, 2010 at 4:10 PM  

If it's relationship advise, I would probably go to parents. But again, if your parents are overly strict this might not be a good idea. If its school stuff I would probably go to friends, depending on if your friends are the slacking type or the very studios type.

Party decorations March 3, 2010 at 4:28 PM  

That there are certain rules to consider and must be obeyed to make him a better person when he grows up and that includes thinking not only for his own self but to consider others as well.

Party decorations March 3, 2010 at 4:29 PM  

My son loves fire trucks so we took a little trip to our local fire department and he got to see the truck and they explained to my kids what they do and why. My city does an annual safe kids fair that is free to the public. It is this weekend and I am taking my kids to it.

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