>> Feb 3, 2014
Most married couples intend to take a step forward into parenthood. Many marriages have the main purpose to have and raise kids. For parents, their kids are their biggest happiness. So, how about us –childless couple? Can we have a happy marriage life?
Though there’s an increase in the amount of couple who choose childfree living nowadays, for me and hubby, being childless is not our choice but a real fact that must be accepted. My womb was taken during a surgery last year. It couldn’t be postponed any longer as my health worsening fast.
Childfree married couple is still a minority in our society, that’s why meeting new people is never easy for me. I always face the same question and pity reaction when they finally know my condition. But I can say that I’m much stronger now. As Gede Prama said in his article ‘The Art of Healing’, suffering is a bell to remind you to come back home, to the home of peace. As long as I sincere and surrender, everything will be all right. As the time goes by, I don’t feel sadness anymore. The life keeps going on.
Ellen L. Walker, a psychologist, has written a book titled ‘Complete Without Kids’. I haven’t yet read her book, but in one article she mentioned about a study result stated that Couple’s Happiness can be reached by simply relationship maintenance. I think we should do this. We don’t have kids to brighten our marriage life, but we can reach happiness in our marriage by making our relationship stronger. We can be happy in ‘different way’.
Let me link this post to Blue Monday. Those are shadows of us. Captured one sunny morning, a few weeks before the surgery held. My hubby keeps telling me that my health is his most concern –above all. He can accept to be childless as long as I can get my health back. I’m fortunate to have a caring husband like him.