CC : Annoying NOs in Our Marriage

Whether you a wife or a husband, I guess you ever experience these annoying NOs from your spouse.

Let my hubby first. I’ve ever mentioned about it several times at my Couple’s Corner previous posts. My hubby forbids me going out alone. Sometimes it’s really annoying me. He keeps saying NO every time I tell him that I want to go some where; and I don’t like waiting for him until he comes home from work, as he often arrives at home very late at night. There’s no open place anymore.

Though I have promised that I’ll be very careful, he keeps saying NO. In fact, I don’t disagree with his reason of not allowing me. He said that he is afraid of some men will flirt with me. Does it mean he really protects me or just his jealousy?

I really want to take pictures of some interesting events in my city. Because of this forbidden, sometimes I miss the event, when he’s too busy to accompany me.

My hubby is a smoker. My dream is to see him quit smoking. I have asked him several times, but he’s seldom said something, and keeps smoking until now. It bothers me a lot. He doesn’t say NO, but for me, it’s the most annoying NO from him. I avoid forcing him, as I prefer to give him explanation and my arguments. But it hasn’t been successful yet. He’s ever answered once, “I want to stop, but it’s very hard”. Sigh.

What about my NOs? When we’re going shopping to a mall or hypermarket, it can happen a little argument. My hubby isn’t a frugal buyer; his shopping behavior more tends to be spontaneous buying. I often say NO. “No, we still have much of this”, “No, we still don’t need it”, “No, it’s not in our list”, “No, it’s too expensive for our budget”, etc. But when we’re going shopping to a flea market, I never say NO, I let him totally. And most of the times, I just wait in the car, hehehe.

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Outdoor Bathrooms

This time I don’t share the beauty views. Along the flowing water (Katulampa water channel, Bogor, Indonesia), you can see several bathrooms. It’s not healthy thing, of course. In a developing country like mine, local people that live near the flowing water still prefer to build and use outdoor bathrooms every day.

Poverty isn’t the cause. Perhaps it already becomes their old tradition. Several years ago, I’ve ever visited a village of onion farmers in Brebes, Central Java, Indonesia. They aren’t poor; but most homes in the village have no bathrooms. They prefer to use the river to get all their water need -for drink, wash, cook, bath, etc. The river is one of their favorite gathering places.

For me, they have polluted the water straightly. I really hope that one day, all local people there don’t use these bathrooms anymore and each home has at least one bathroom. They must have wills to change their unhealthy habits! 

Watery Wednesday

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You are Also Invited!

Dear blogger friends, Faye is holding another blog contest. Isn’t it great? It’s open for international bloggers, so, you can also join!

First, check out the lovely prizes :
1st prize - Fossil Ladies Watch
2nd prize - Fossil Ladies Watch
3rd prize -Kate Spade kikay kit (orange)

The mechanics are still simple. I quote it from her blog :
1. Subscribe to my feed via email located right side bar (REQUIRED ) - 1 Entry
2. Blog about the contest along with the Prizes {You MUST include the Prizes and My link}- 5 Entries
- If you have multiple blogs, much better. Each blog post along with the Prizes -5 Entries.
3. Leave a comment in this post telling me what you did and give me the link of the blog post. 1 Entry.
4. Comment to any of my post. From Oct 12,2010 to Dec 18,2010 and you’ll have 1 entry each comment.
-Make it sure it's at least three word ! LOL And NO SPAMMING, PLEASE!

The Contest ends on December 18, so if you wish to participate you must enter before that date. Winners will be announced on December 28,2010! The winners will be picked through Random.org!

Good luck to all participants!

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Caterpillar’s Eyes

True eyes or eye spots?

Caterpillar's true eyes are on the side of their head. What can they see actually? Caterpillars only see light and dark. Some caterpillars have eyespots. An eye spot is a circular, eye-like marking found on the body of some caterpillars. These eyespots make the little ones look like the face of a larger animal and may scare away some predators.

I saw this creature at my front yard. I think the eyes are true ones.

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CC: Am I a Yes Wife?

I’m not proud to say this; but in fact, I don’t say yes or agree with everything my husband’s wants and thinks. I guess that’s why he wants me to less stubborn. Sometimes, we have different opinion and point of view about things and we decide to let it. We are two different people; we can’t always have the same thoughts, right?

But when it comes to big and important things in our marriage life, we always try to discuss and compromise, to get one decision that we agree together. But don’t misjudge me, I’m not the kind of wife that doesn’t trust the husband and often forbids when the husband wants to go out besides work. It’s not me at all. Every time he wants to go somewhere (after work hours), he always tells what he will do and who he will meet. He also always asks my permission; and I’ve never said no.

My hubby forbids me leaving far from home alone. Sometimes I don’t obey it and go out to the place by myself. I usually tell him after I’ve arrived at home again, hahaha.

I guess as long as I can give clear and reasonable argument and reason, it’s okay if I sometimes don’t say yes or disagree with hubby. And for his understanding, I always say thank you.

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Water for Good Health

Drinking water is very significant for good health. Our body needs water to control body temperature and to supply the means for nutrients to travel to all our organs. Water also brings oxygen to our cells, removes waste, and protects your joints and organs.

How much water do we need to drink? A good estimation is to take our body weight in pounds and divide that number in half. That presents the number of ounces of water per day that we need to drink. For example, if you weigh 160 pounds, you should drink at least 80 ounces of water every day.

Twenty percent of our water need will originate from the foods we eat. The rest of our water need should come from the beverages we drink. Water is the best choice.

I captured it for Watery Wednesday.

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Is Your Child Shy (2)?

This post is the continuance of the previous one. If based on the result, you are sure your child is shy; you should handle it right away. One thing that parents should remember is, don’t use your child’s shyness to give her/him the negative label ‘a shy kid’; as it can hurt your child’s feeling and mind. By the way, I’ve ever posted an article that described the bad effects of negative labeling to your child.

Some parents feel that it's important to accept and understand a shy child the way she is. Others may focus more on teaching a child to interrelate more comfortably in social situations. Ultimately, it's finest to merge support with encouragement. "The goal is not to eliminate shyness but to help the child works within his own personality to do the things he wants to do," Markway (author of Nurturing the Shy Child) says.

Here is some general guidance that you can apply to help your child face her/his shyness.

1. Whenever she stays away from other children, talk with her kindly and assist her become friends with the other children.
2. Do not let her cry. Try to familiarize her with the situations she is afraid of. For example, if she is afraid of a dog, go and caress that dog.
3. Do not force her to talk or face the situations she is scared of. For example, when you have guests, do not make she stays with the guests if your child is afraid of strangers.
4. Praise her when she can overcome her shyness. It is very essential that your child is self-confident. Don’t speak in your child’s name and teach her to take care of herself.
5. Try to build up your child’s qualities. It will help her getting more self-belief in herself and then conquer the shyness.
6. Seek advice from a specialist or a doctor if you feel you need more help.

Rewrite Source: essortment.com

Image source : juicyjuice.com

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