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>> Dec 8, 2018

The dissolution of victimization

There’s no question that those such as myself suffering from the throes of substance abuse can be selfish in their nature. Though we frequently lack sympathy or empathy toward other individuals, often times we expect others to feel sorry for us and the woes that chemical dependency has delivered to our doorstep. 
Playing the Victim Role

In my life I played the perpetual victim.  No one's life was as difficult as mine, no one understood what I was going through, and if your life was as bad as mine you would drink and abuse drugs too.  My parents were getting divorced, I suffered from depression and anxiety, struggled with a eating disorder, so clearly my life was just worse than anyone else’s right?  I now know that I am not the only one who has struggled with these things in life.  That in fact my problems were far less than others.  My troubles were just an excuse to drink and use drugs.  I would use any excuse to use, and this allowed me to do so without taking any ownership for my actions.

Common phrases I used to justify my victimization were:
     That’s not fair...
     I don’t want to...
     That’s too hard...
     I can’t do that...
     But how come…

Turning my Will and my Life Over to the Care of God

As addicts and alcoholics giving up control is not something we want really want to do.  It has been our coping mechanism for so long!  We are convinced that if everyone just did exactly what we wanted them to do everything would be fine… the only problem is that is not how the world works.  Our egos are so big that we believe everyone around us is the problem so that we never have to take a look at ourselves.  Because if we looked at ourselves it would just be too much to bear.  So we continued to blame everyone and everything around us for every circumstance in our lives.  This just perpetuated the vicious cycle of victimization.  I have to drink because YOU people can’t just get it together… and clearly the world around me was having the same problem falling in line.  Us alcoholics and addicts will, and do always find some excuse to drink.  Got a promotion at work?  Drink!  Got a speeding ticket on your way to work? Drink!  You see where I am going with this… anything good or bad that happens in our lives gives us an excuse to do exactly as we please… which is to drink.

Breaking the Victim Cycle

I think the first time I heard myself say, “Yes, that was my bad, I can own up to that” was after I completed my 4th and 5th step with my sponsor. I had never been able to really see just how large my role was in everything bad that ever happened to me. I never realized that when people had hurt me, or when I didn’t get what I wanted, that for the most part, those things were actually the result of something I had done or said. I realized I had been playing the victim, almost all of my adult life. After my manipulating abilities ran out, and I found myself alone and addicted to a handful of different types of drugs.  This is when I found the rooms of AA, working a 12 step program. I was given the tools I needed to stop playing the victim, and to start being a responsible adult.

The Road to Recovery and Taking Responsibility of my Actions

Once I was finally willing to make changes, to kick my addiction, and become a new person, I found that living life as a victim doesn’t carry the same validation it once did. The 12 steps were the only thing that had ever shown me my true nature.

I believed I had control over myself, others, and events that happened around me.  There came a point where I had to stop blaming others and situations for my addiction and seek appropriate help. I can not achieve long term sobriety unless I take responsibility for myself!  Sobriety can not be achieved unless you take responsibility! Don’t let addiction win!
Crystal Hampton is a 37-year-old avid writer from South Florida.  She loves snuggling with her teacup Yorkie Gator and boyfriend Adam.  She works for a digital marketing company that advocates spreading awareness on the disease of addiction. Her passion in life is to help others by sharing her experience, strength, and hope.

MS- Masters in Applied Behavior Analysis
B.Ed.- Bachelors in Elementary Education


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